Re: If you could make your choice without offending anyone…
^ and i would find that pretty rude and frustrating as a host. if it says Mr. and Mrs., it says so for a reason. don’t attend if you are unable to respect the invitation! this is why desi weddings get so chaotic so fast- no one understands that it costs money to host people, esp abroad, so you can’t bring your whole khandaan with you if it says the invite is only for you and your significant other.
i did have kids at my wedding and i was pretty stressed about it since they weren’t the best behaved lot, and lets face it, every little thing seems magnified when you’re a bride-to-be. when i expressed my concern to their mothers (my aunts), i was told i’d better make some arrangements because the kids would cause havoc (and they wouldn’t do anything about it). my mom was livid when she heard this and we decided it was worth the cash to hire babysitters. in the end, those ladies only cost me $120 financially but were absolutely priceless in making sure the kids were entertained, their parents had a good time, and i didn’t have to worry about screaming/crying/interrupting/havoc-causing children ruining things. since then, every family wedding i’ve had a hand in planning has had babysitters.
after having a kid myself, and knowing he has a routine and is mA an active kid, i’d happily leave him with grandparents, friends, or a babysitter, before attending a social function if only because i know he would be more comfortable playing in his pj’s and sleeping at his usual time.
also, i don’t think adult-only weddings are boring at all- it gives adults a chance to mix, mingle and chat without worrying about what jr. is up to and if missy has had her dinner. sorry to say, but if the guests are just sitting there just staring at each other then its probably because they’re boring people to begin with!
Thank you! I do not understand why desi people ignore invitations - they either don’t listen to them or don’t rsvp and just show up with their entire extended family. It’s so rude.