If the girl is more forthcoming in the relation?

[amzsonikuri]

Re: If the girl is more forthcoming in the relation?

@cinderelli

What if the girl (wife/fiance/girlfriend) is more forth coming in the relation?

Usually she initiates the romance, lovey dovey-ness, more expressive, rememebrs to call you, is always there when you need her, is more caring, more gift sending sort, more loving, more readily available, more inclined to make it work etc.

1. Does that usually make the men in the relation run from them?
2. Do guys usually prefer girls who stay to themselves and open up when they themselves open up or those who are available any time?

I had to learn the hard way, I’m engaged but its long distance, he’s living abroad. I send him hand made knitted stuff from me when its winter there and hand written letters. And I do try to call him at least once a day. I only do that so we don’t drift apart and believe its important to keep comminication open.

I did talk to him and asked him if he thought i call too much he said no its fine, i love it when you call call when you want etc. Of course he says that so my feelings don’t get hurt but i don’t get offeneded at all and always ask him if he’s busy or he wants me to call him later. I understand he needs his space. Sometimes I decide to give him space for a few days maybe when he’s with his friends or family or busy and then i call and he gets annoyed at me, asking me why didn’t you call me, i told him i want to give you space. he says I really missed you (reason he doesn’t call is because its quite expensive to call here, and i can call him very cheaply from UK). So i did just that and for the past few days he’s been with his friends somewhere and he’s been ignoring me, i called and he picked up for 2 seconds and he said he couldnt hear me told me to call him later.

His phone was switched off after that. This isn’t the first time this has happened he’s done this before where he doesn’t answer my calls for days. He normally says he has problems at home, i understand it completely, but don’t get mad at me when i decide to give you space.
Myab ei am clingy and i get worried about him i don’t know. its hard when someone you love is far away. I plan not to call him for a few days just to see what he does, plan to occupy myself. I am not bad looking and funny and interesting, but i think even the most interesting woman can get boring to a man if she’s too available for him. You start being taken for granted because he knows you will always be around to call him when he decides to come back. I need to start playing hard to get. But i know if i do this, he’ll just go weird on me again and ask me why haven’t i called him blah blah.