…because of preconceived ideas or biases, do you:
spend time with them and try and convince them to like you?
walk away from the relationship because you shouldn’t have to prove your worth or value to them?
other, please explain.
Let’s assume that the the other person is not a casual friend who doesn’t matter, but a manager at work, a friend of a friend or a potential MIL or sister-in-law?
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no. 2
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If I like that person then no. 1, if I don't like the person then no. 2.
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I don't know if it is even possible to "convince someone to like you".
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You may be the kindest, loving, most decent, and humble person in the world, but not everyone is going to like you. Spend time with people who value you for who you are.
Now if it's like a manager who holds the fate of your job which you desperately need, then do your work diligently and stay under the radar so there can be no cause for them to let you go. :D
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I don't go out of my way to get someone to like me....that "sucking-up" behavior turns me off. I have approached the person directly and asked them if everything is okay because they seem distant/upset. Sometimes they explain what's bothering them....and at the very least it lets them know that I've made an effort. I'll still try to maintain a polite attitude with them. There have also been times at work....where I've lost respect for a boss to the point that I just avoid them ...do my work, but maintain a polite distance. As far as preconcieved biases/ideas are concerned......I believe actions speak louder than words. Be yourself.....don't bend over backwords....and let your positive actions refute any negative ideas they have about you. Sometimes it works....sometimes it doesn't. Oh well. Also depends on the who that individual is.
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If person is someone who really matters, I try to clear up the air and if it does not work, I leave them alone but i rarely 'walk away' or 'quit' the relationships. I just put it on back-burner
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Spend some time with the person........not to convince to like me...but to give the other person a chance...to see past their pre-conceived ideas/biases.....if they continue to 'not like me'..........i would keep as much distance from them as possible practically......
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**it all depends who that person is...if he/she is an important person in my life, i would deffo explain and let him be the final judge but i'll NOT stop loving or caring about that person.
the rest, i may NOT bother to explain myself coz it's not gonna help ease the situation. :)**
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Spend some time with the person........not to convince to like me...but to give the other person a chance...to see past their pre-conceived ideas/biases.....if they continue to 'not like me'..........i would keep as much distance from them as possible practically......
This.
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Numbah 2.
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how do you know if that person doesn't like you?
would you have heard it from someone or they said it directly to you?
that all would depend in my answer.
if hearing it from someone that so and so has issue with me and doesnt like me, i would make an effort to get to know them better and vice versa. People say anything and who knows, the whole "i heard from so and so that they dont like you" might not even be true at all, and then you yourself would have some preconceived idea about that person.
if they told me directly that dont like me and gave me their reasons, and if i think the reasons are unjustified and not really good reasons, then I wont really bother with them. Their loss. Filter them out, block and delete and shut the front door on your way out.
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It is just common sense. If it is someone I do not care about I do not bother. If it is at work , in the family or with close friends I will take all the time it will require to explain myself.
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Peace Sehrysh
The question is asked as though it is a requirement to get people to like us ... Let it be known that Muhammad (SAW) the most sublime person, the mercy to mankind didn't achieve being liked by all people then what hope do we have?
The key is to get Allah (SWT) to like us ... We can do this by being nice to all, never taking away the rights of people ... We should not please people ... because people may be ungrateful and that may hurt us, but if we do good to them regardless of how they will react then we can take pleasure by pleasing Allah (SWT).
If a person is good and dislikes me I try to learn from him/her ... if a person is bad and dislikes me I'm patient and nice to them ... if a person is good and like me then I try to be nicer to them then they are to me ... and if a person is bad and likes me then i try to teach him/her by my conduct that there is a better way to be. In all this I never do anything to earn the gratitude of people, but if comes my way I show pleasure in it with them and with Allah (SWT).
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I don't know if it is even possible to "convince someone to like you".
perhaps not verbally convince but definitely via actions.
A really good friend of mine, when I first met her, I couldn't stand her and the funny thing is she remembers how I was 'rude to her in the beginning.
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do people ever tell you face to face that they dont like you?
All i have noticed is that they keep themselves more distant and doesnt like to let the conversation continue , but rather gives short answers and also their attitude says it all. But have never been with a person who says it right out to me that they dont like me....
But anyways, if its someone i care about i would try to find out what it is that person dislikes about me and then perhaps do something about it. Otherwise.... i cant make everyone like me so i will just try to be nice nd polite with them.
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I never met anyone who did not like me so its hard to answer this question.
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^achem....
j/k
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Galay main balgham?
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I never met anyone who did not like me so its hard to answer this question.
apnay monh say tareef achi nahi lagti :@: