Re: If marriage has so many problems then why do they marry ?
i have a different point of u.....
some girl do get into the marriage not with big expectations but they get into the marriage with a hope that if things didnt turn out the way she is planning..... she'll put in her best effort to make it work and it is not a lie that most girls blame their parents for their failed marriage because initially its her parents who force her in.
take me for example.... when i was asked abt my husband i clearly said No to my mom because the way my FIL took me to the other room and started talking to me in a way i didnt like at all ..... he was doubting my character and asking me if i already have a bf ..... it was insulting for me atleast but mom didnt see it a big deal and despite of me telling her that i dont think this family is right for me.... (there were other small incidents) she went ahead and said yes to them.....
i was so pressurized by my family that i couldnt even stand up for myself.... there was no one who supported me or bothered to understand my point of view.... so when mom said yes ... i decided i am gona make this marriage work no matter what....
but after putting so much effort (maybe not as much as compared to other ladies who had been through a lot) and i did work hard at it and in return i never got anything....and the funny thing is that he makes it sound like its my responcibility to keep putting effort and not his.....
my inlaws behave really weird.... to me it seems like they never accepted me as their bahbi.... i feel like i am unwanted in their family.... even though its arranged by his family.... not even in the beginning of marriage i felt that i am part of his family....
i tried talking to him so many times but there is a huge communication gap between us
so yeh its not like girl blame their parents/spouse/inlaws because they dont see their marriage going any where.... maybe some do but not all girls blame their parents because they seem like an easy target but they blame them because they were the one who took the decision and told her that we are your elders and we know this world more then u so you should trust us because we are not gona ruin ur life.... and at the end they do end up ruining our life......
i however never told my parents that they made a wrong decision and never told them what i am going through... cuz i dont see any point