why can’t a man love all his wives? Why is that such a hard thing to be true?
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kids give love in return....wives give love too but to someone other than their husband. :D
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The bond a mother has with her children is not the same as the bond a husband has with his wife.
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You're comparing children who are your flesh and blood to wives? Totally different dynamics.
Read verse 129 of surah Nisa. Allah Himself says that men can't do justice with their wives and who knows our natures better than Him? You might love all your wives, but with varying degrees.
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You're comparing children who are your flesh and blood to wives? Totally different dynamics.
Read verse 129 of surah Nisa. Allah Himself says that men can't do justice with their wives and who knows our natures better than Him? You might love all your wives, but with varying degrees.
I feel like I have been RAW-ed
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We youngest siblings know that any mother is lying when she says she loves all her kids equally.... we are more loved than the rest.
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I feel like I have been RAW-ed
Even if RAW would have said that, what is so wrong in it? Nothing at all. And whether mommy and daddy love all their kids equally is debatable.
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Even if RAW would have said that, what is so wrong in it? Nothing at all.
Oho mazak tha.
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What a stupid thing to say!!!
That doesn’t even make sense!! A mother is a mother. She gave birth to her children. 
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You can't compare them. Mother's love towards her children is different while what husband & wife have is a romantic relationship. Totally different.
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why can't a man love all his wives? Why is that such a hard thing to be true?
Because he is not carrying them for 9 months, then giving them birth, and raising them.
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Share your wife then with another man
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We youngest siblings know that any mother is lying when she says she loves all her kids equally.... we are more loved than the rest.
Nope. The eldest is the most loved.
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Actually the verse goes on to say that you shouldn’t lean completely towards one, i.e. you will obviously be more attracted sexually to a 20 year old than a 50 year old, but that doesn’t mean you can neglect the 50 year old.
Islamically, polygyny is allowed, no if’s and’s or but’s. The reason women are against it, right or wrong, is because culturally, most of the world is not polygamous anymore. At least the dominant cultures aren’t. This is religious cognitive dissonance at its finest.
And yes, you can divorce a man if he chooses to have a second wife but you would be doing so for something that is allowed in Islam. You would be carrying out an action that is a grave action religiously, to “correct” an action that is perfectly acceptable. It would be like divorcing him because he chooses to have a beard. Women should simply state that this is a part of religion that they are not willing to accept because within the bounds of Islam, the perverts win. They are allowed to have more than one wife.
I personally do think most men who want to follow this rule have ulterior motives but at the same time, regardless of religion, if extremely wealthy men wanted to have more than one wife I think they should be able to do so. If they’re dumb enough to take on more than one problem it’s their own fault. 
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^Yes, the ayat starts of saying that men won't be able to treat their wives equally and the admonishment to not leave one of the wives hanging reinforces the start of the ayat...that it's hard to be just/equal/fair.
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Hmmm...would you divorce your kid? Or your mother? Aren't you born from a wife's womb?
Its so ridiculous to compare the two bonds...lol.
Yar tu ne apne poore gs career main yeah pehli dhang kee baat kee hai.
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Actually, no. It’s not allowed as a straight u option for any man who wishes to do so. There are certain circumstances in which polygamy is encouraged, namely to help the orphans and widows in times of war.
As to the second part I highlighted, again, this ISLAMICALLY speaking shouldn’t apply; just because you are wealthy you can have more than one wife? No. It doesn’t work like that. A lot of people KNOW this, but choose to abuse this rule because Islam has permitted polygamy. Allah is Al-Hakeem - He wouldn’t make laws without wisdom behind the decision. Polygamy isn’t a must; it’s an option **if and **when the need arises.
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^ ghost didn't say anything about polygamy being needed or necessary or favorable. He simply stated that yes, it is **allowed **in Islam. You can't dispute that.
What the criterion are is a whole different discussion.
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True - different discussion, different thread. I just felt the need to comment because I didn't agree with the air of it. Maybe I have misunderstood his intentions and my mistake, if so.