If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

[X2]

what about that question fools you into thinking i have high regards for you?

u asked me why would god want something like that, which would mean

1) I really know gods intentions
2) I am god

pretty high regard i would say.

why does god want a kid to be abandoned, or orphaned, why does god want genocide to take place, i dont know. so why would I know why god would want a kid to feel bad if the kid's daddy remarries.

[MIAinVA]

Just do tiffin lunches and eat them together in the company cafeteria by the vending machines. You would not be "going out to lunches" and thus it is permisible per peer saab.

haha, thanks for the advice but it was a hypothetical situation to point out something and I have to go home now so I didn't wait for enough replies. Will consult you for sure though, if I find myself in such a situation :@:

Have a good weekend everyone :)

[X2]

@PyariCgudia

That’s why I find it so weird that in a very burqa-clad culture, like saudi or afghanistan, how people find multiple spouses. You could not have possibly found her at a hookah bar, so how did you meet the second ms. burqa wali, and the third ms. burqa wali?

hmmmm
perhaps at a burqa shop?

[Mirch]

What pcg said was right. If you cant treat them equally your not allowed. Actually and also can some1 clarify for each tear that ur wife crys over you, You get punished? Tru false?

You are right on first count . He will be questioned on the day of judgement if he did not treat all the wives equally. Quran has imposed this condition. On the second question if she cries because he abuses her yes he will be answerable. But if she cries for the sole reason that he married another woman then it is not his fault. Being a Muslim woman she needs to understand that it is permitted by Allah.

BTW.

Quick question. How many of you "mard" would be ok if your dad went out and brought in another woman when you were growing up?

Would you slice his privates in axial or longitudinal cross-sections and serve it to the neighborhood dog or cat?

Did you get your inspiration from Lorena Bobbit ? She was his wife not his daughter or son. Father has not committed any crime. He has permission to do so as per his beliefs and religion.

so what are you saying, so if some guy was a child when his dad got another woman, and the kid did not slice his dads privates he is not a 'man' when he grows up?

just trying to understand the logic here.

Me too.

[PyariCgudia]

@X2

u asked me why would god want something like that, which would mean

1) I really know gods intentions 2) I am god

pretty high regard i would say.

why does god want a kid to be abandoned, or orphaned, why does god want genocide to take place, i dont know. so why would I know why god would want a kid to feel bad if the kid's daddy remarries.

Um, dude. That was a rhetorical question...

Weirdo.

[PyariCgudia]

You are right on first count . He will be questioned on the day of judgement if he did not treat all the wives equally. Quran has imposed this condition. On the second question if she cries because he abuses her yes he will be answerable. But if she cries for the sole reason that he married another woman then it is not his fault. Being a Muslim woman she needs to understand that it is permitted by Allah.

Did you get your inspiration from Lorena Bobbit ? She was his wife not his daughter or son. Father has not committed any crime. He has permission to do so as per his beliefs and religion.

Me too.

Did you have a conversation with God where He told you this?

[X2]

Um, dude. That was a rhetorical question...

Weirdo.

why did you have to sign that last post, good style, I will copy

Pir X2

[X2]

Did you have a conversation with God where He told you this?

when i tell u I cant tell u what god's intentions are you dont like it, when someone tells you what he thinks gods intentions are you dont like it. not easy to please are ya?

[PyariCgudia]

Re: If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

nope

[happyheart]

Is he cheating or looking for a second wife ? After all Muslim men are allowed to have 4 wives .

Disclaimer: It is a hypothetical question. I am not seeing someone.

Its nothing to do with marrying a MUSLIM man.
Non Mulims cheat as much or ever more then MUSLIM MEN.
You should talk about MEN in general sis.

........still not going out Mirch? :)

[queer]

Re: If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

oh the humanity..

[Mirch]

@happyheart

Its nothing to do with marrying a MUSLIM man.
Non Mulims cheat as much or ever more then MUSLIM MEN.
You should talk about MEN in general sis.

…still not going out Mirch?

Shortly someone will tell you why I am rolling on the floor so badly.

[TLK]

Yeah well once he is not able to treat the two women equally and he has hurt another human being ie. his first wife and his kids from her by doing what he has done, then he is answerable to God for that. Not sure about you, but I'd rather not have to face God for screwing up someone's life because I'm some pervert.

O btw I want to make one thing clear. Women's standard of equal treatment are not God's standard. What makes you happy is not always what makes God happy and a Muslim hubby is obligated to treat his wife according to the religion that Allah imposed upon us, not the half cooked version of that religion created by most of the women around us.

When it comes to having a seprate huosehold and not obligated to look after the Mother in Law, our women suddenly throw in the religion card, but when it comes to the rights that ALlah has given to men, they start bickering and calling it Mullah version of islam. Bravo. very mature.

[Sara516]

@MIAinVA

Ok, so another question now as I’m reading your responses.

So lets say there’s a very decent lady who’s married to an okay guy (he’s nothing great, but she’s content with him) and then lets say she gets to know this guy (at a socail daawat, class or work, or whatever) and starts liking him and lets says she think oh, I wish I had met him before I got married cuz he fits her ideal but thats not possible now, so she doesn’t pursue anything and just remains as an acquaintance/friend with him. No meeting, no lunches, just hello hi when they happen to meet socially.

So would that be cheating in your dictionary? Men and women both answer please.

No that’s not cheating. Nowhere near cheating.
But it can certainly lead down the wrong path, if every time she fights or is unhappy with the husband, she may start to think of him, which can lead to more communication and the more communication there is, the riskier it can get (or so I think thats how it goes )

[AnjanaSaDil]

@maroush

If he is only “window shopping” then is that still classified as cheating? He’s not actually doing the deed…

Or is he?

I’ve lost count of the amount of times i’ve said this - “each to his own”.

Having said that, if i was in that position, i would hope that he would have the decency to tell me first. If not, to hell with him! As long as he is there for my children, is a prominent father figure and supports them, then fine by me.

I’d hate him, yes. I’d be broken, yes. Would i seek revenge of some sort? In the heat of the moment, most probably. But i would hope that i would pick myself up and carry on with life. My children are my life. I live and breathe for them. Husbands can come and go as they please for all i care.

(If you’re reading Mr Maroush, i heart thee )

VERY nicely written maroush…something for all wome to keep in mind if they are unfortunate enough to be in that position..

[Pareezay]

CHor kee darhee main tinka

Huma , that is not true. Whether we like it or not, permission from the first wife is not required. I mean come on, think of it. Which wife in her right mind would give her hubby that permission anwyas

So then why does the ijazat nama exist in Pakistan?

[Pareezay]

@Mirch

Shortly someone will tell you why I am rolling on the floor so badly.

happy heart: it’s brother mirch.

[khoji]

Re: If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

That's why I find it so weird that in a very burqa-clad culture, like saudi or afghanistan, how people find multiple spouses. You could not have possibly found her at a hookah bar, so how did you meet the second ms. burqa wali, and the third ms. burqa wali?

You are thinking from a very different perspective. Remember arranged marriages. So if a man is interested in getting another wife then he does not even need to ask the woman he is interested in. He will rather go and ask her father or family.
Very bad.

[sharaabee]

Re: If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

Ofcourse it's cheating. So is having multiple wives!

[nadz123]

Re: If a married Muslim man seeing some other woman.

either way, id kick his **** in. no one im married to, will marry again, regardless if religion requires it or not. he will have to divorce me to marry again.simple.