plus havent you seen expectations from many ladies on GS that a husband should work fulltime and then come home and split household chores with them 50/50 and that they really dont like cooking. connect that to the fact that he has to treat all equally, so here is the situation this guy will be under
go to work 7 days…hey expenses are high, come home 1, (4 condos in same bldg) start cooking run to house 2 start cooking, run to house 3 start cooking run to house 4 start cooking, clean house 4, clean house 3, clean house 2, clean house 1, feed the wife, go to house 2 feed the wife, go to house 3 feed the wife, go to house 4 feed the wife.
(take that as a joke. I am not qualified to anser your question)
See, no wonder islam allowed 4 wives but banned cheating. 4 marriages is like putting a daig of briyani in front of a rat and forcing him to finish it. Its not a treat for him, its torture.
Wow, you need to read history lady. Do you have any idea about the initial conflicts between the teams of Hazrat Aisha and Hazrat Hafsa vs rest of his wives. He was so bighearted that there was a rumor that he is going to divorce one of those who were raising objections (I think it was Hafsa).
Guac, actually you should not. Check with a proper Aalim on this
Wow, you need to read history lady. Do you have any idea about the initial conflicts between the teams of Hazrat Aisha and Hazrat Hafsa vs rest of his wives. He was so bighearted that there was a rumor that he is going to divorce one of those who were raising objections (I think it was Hafsa).
That I do.
Inshallah I will be buying a few books when I go to Pakistan the next time.
So if a woman (who intends to divorce her husband), starts looking around for husband #2 (for screening purposes only ;) ), would that be considered cheating?
See, no wonder islam allowed 4 wives but banned cheating. 4 marriages is like putting a daig of briyani in front of a rat and forcing him to finish it. Its not a treat for him, its torture.
hahahahaha...i just had coke coming out of my nose.
I am sorry it does not work that way. You need to refer it to your Islamic scholar for details.
Who told you that he needs permission ? Why does he need to tell his first wife ? What kind of satisfaction his first wife will get out of this information. Dill he jalay ga baycharee ka.
Magar mairee toh darheee hee nahi. Tinka ataknay ka sawal he nahi paida hota.
Why does she need to know. It will give her grief only
Even if the economical sitution permits it. The kind of women men need to deal as wives now a days makes it impossible to even think of another wife.
So if a woman (who intends to divorce her husband), starts looking around for husband #2 (for screening purposes only ;) ), would that be considered cheating?
nope, cuz she is not allowed to marry while she is still married, so she cant look to get married while she is married. Now technically once she has started proceedings and the current husband has been informed that she wants to split, then I guess looking can start :)
So if a woman (who intends to divorce her husband), starts looking around for husband #2 (for screening purposes only ;) ), would that be considered cheating?
No ;)
On a serious note, depends upon why the woman is looking. Sometimes you know that divorce is inevitable so if you start screening out some potential guys then it might be ok but if you start dating him then I think that will be cheating. Not only that, you will put yourself in a stupid situation. One might be divorcing her hubby cause he physically abuses her but now he is gonna go out and tell people that my wife left me because she was seeing this guy while we were still married.
sighhhh.... why have we made islam so complicated for us?
If you're seeing other women behind your wife's back, that's wrong morally, even before you bring religion into this.
If you want to get married the second time, again its just a question of morals. If you're a decent man you will ask your first wife. End of story.
No one could have been more desperate than my mom's khaalu was. Fair play to him for waiting for so long. If your intention for getting married again is just so you can sleep with another woman, well then you don't even deserve someone's advice on this. If your intentions are legit (example of my mom's khaalu) then Allah s.w.t will help you, guaranteed.
Yeah well once he is not able to treat the two women equally and he has hurt another human being ie. his first wife and his kids from her by doing what he has done, then he is answerable to God for that. Not sure about you, but I’d rather not have to face God for screwing up someone’s life because I’m some pervert.
Are you suggesting that men who want more than 1 wife, go and get the second wife and NEVER inform the first wife EVER? Or are you saying, you should inform the first wife after marrying the second wife?
