Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Also, this whole attitude of I've always respected my parents and I've always been an achi bachi is a weak argument.
If you end up marrying a guy out of pressure when your heart isn't into it, then you risk ruining your life, the guy's life, and you'll feel resentment toward your parents who will be stressed out over you. Where is the respect for parents in that? Beware of gaining/giving a smaller and short-lived happiness in exchange for greater misery down the road.
I'm not saying that you should ignore your parents and only do whatever you want. But I think you need to examine some of the ideas/beliefs you hold.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Dude, you are 20. A chochi si bachi. It also reflects in the way you are dealing with the marriage situation. Take a few years, grow up a bit, see the world, meet more people and figure out what you actually want out of life and marriage. If you are not in school, go back to school. When you figure out that someone's georgraphic location does not determine if they will make a good life partner, then you can get married.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Also, this whole attitude of I've always respected my parents and I've always been an achi bachi is a weak argument.
If you end up marrying a guy out of pressure when your heart isn't into it, then you risk ruining your life, the guy's life, and you'll feel resentment toward your parents who will be stressed out over you. Where is the respect for parents in that? Beware of gaining/giving a smaller and short-lived happiness in exchange for greater misery down the road.
I'm not saying that you should ignore your parents and only do whatever you want. But I think you need to examine some of the ideas/beliefs you hold.
yeah but the problem is everytyme i try to talk to my mum she turns her face? makes me sound wrong? i dont even shout, i say it calmly but instead she says DONT TALK TO ME ABOUT THIS and tturns around.
What am i meant to do here? and i know it for a fact now that they will look here in uk but not happily, they wont look at the right people in uk, they will jus try n put me off..they wont put effort in it....i dont know what to do?
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Dude, you are 20. A chochi si bachi. It also reflects in the way you are dealing with the marriage situation. Take a few years, grow up a bit, see the world, meet more people and figure out what you actually want out of life and marriage. If you are not in school, go back to school. When you figure out that someone's georgraphic location does not determine if they will make a good life partner, then you can get married.
meet peopple? lol my parents keeep me away from men haha all the boys...ive grown up in a full on girls community...ive kept away from college boys and school boys...now i dont mind gowing and getting to know people but if i like some one out then my parents will say, "yeah we r nobody to u, thats why u went and found someone urself" and i got so much more to hear...soo what should i do?
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This thread is getting weirder and weirder, I'm having a hard time believing a 20 yr old born and raised in the UK has been completely shielded from members of the opposite sex to this extent. Did you only go to all girl convent schools? Or were you home schooled?
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
1) If mom is not talking to you, then try talking to Dad or an older sibling or some other trusted family member who can help you out.
2) Can you at least try to tell your parents what other qualities you want in a guy(besides being raised in the UK) and they can at least try to look for someone who comes close to what you want even if he doesn't have every quality.
3) Your mom is being immature because marriage is a serious issue and she should be talking to you about it and making you feel comfortable as opposed to making you fear it. If she's going to be like this, then you be firm as well. If you don't like a rishta, then don't agree to it. Eventually they will see that their emotional blackmail does not work on their choti si bachi and that they need to become more flexible. It may sound counter-intuitive...but standing your ground can bring a change in the other person. It won't be easy, but it's not impossible. Other than that, I dunno what else to tell you.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
This thread is getting weirder and weirder, I'm having a hard time believing a 20 yr old born and raised in the UK has been completely shielded from members of the opposite sex to this extent. Did you only go to all girl convent schools? Or were you home schooled?
Nope, i wennt to a normal school mix school but always kept to myself, didnt speak to the guys over there as parents said dont get free with them and i knew if i speak to them i would become best friends with them...then in college i studies hair n beauty which is a total girls environment....and i hardly go out...how do i get to know guys? i have no sisters so who would i go out with? i could go with friends but my mum dont like it, she says "girls shouldnt go out al the time" and whenever i told her that girls r gowing out then all of a sudden her voice raises and i shutup, then i dont bother saying anything.
I go out on my own to town and couple of places local, but i dont go chilling with anybody...i stay more within my family...
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^ I guess, I just havn't seen sheltering to that extent with the younger lot. In my age bracket (meaning first generation born and raised outside of the motherland) yes, I would say it wasn't that far off, but at least in my sphere of influence, parents have evolved and most 18-21 years olds I know are waaay more self sufficient and out going than I ever was at that age.
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What is with your spelling, Chochi chi Bachi.
If you don't want to get married then don't but really I don't see a hairdresser living a fun adult life without getting married so if you want to keep having to depend on your parents (assuming you live with them and they pay for your expenses.) don't get married but really I think thats selfish and of course you don't have to marry somebody who is back home but you shouldn't just refuse because of where they are living its prejudice and definitely not a mature thing to do.
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bachi - are you from bradford?
This is off topic but I feel your parents have shetlered you so much that you cannot even speak english properly :/ sorry if that was offensive but it really bothers me.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
bachi - are you from bradford?
This is off topic but I feel your parents have shetlered you so much that you cannot even speak english properly :/ sorry if that was offensive but it really bothers me.
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yeah i dnt wana next married until next couple years but my parents wana get me married next year and if i keeeep sayin no then i have a hell lot to hear, what wil i do then?
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The thread title is funny and if it is true then I am doomed. ;)
On a serious note, I think you should concentrate on yourself for the time being and reflect on what you really want. Maybe write a priority list in terms of what you want in a husband. You may find that the more you think about it, the less you will be looking at locations.
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yeah i dnt wana next married until next couple years but my parents wana get me married next year and if i keeeep sayin no then i have a hell lot to hear, what wil i do then?
If you think you can type properly then please do. the above is excruciatingly painful.
You have to be patient and if this is what you really want then don't budge reason with them.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Is that true? because unfortunately thats what my parents think!
and if a guy or girl from uk get married backhome then there marriages are better?
is that true?
these days i have seen quite a few marriages in uk break, i have a cuziz of mines who's from uk and he got married in uk and broke up with his wife and its not even been a year since they wer married....but does that mean this will happen everywer?
what are your views on girls from uk marrying guys backhome?
And guys from uk marrying girls backhome?
could only be a problem
if one person is left aligned
[RIGHT]and the other is rightist[/RIGHT]
I don’t think it’s necessarily appropriate for you to be talking about where someone was conceived. Or do you think that will somehow affect how they turn out?
