Is that true? because unfortunately thats what my parents think!
and if a guy or girl from uk get married backhome then there marriages are better?
is that true?
these days i have seen quite a few marriages in uk break, i have a cuziz of mines who’s from uk and he got married in uk and broke up with his wife and its not even been a year since they wer married…but does that mean this will happen everywer?
what are your views on girls from uk marrying guys backhome?
And guys from uk marrying girls backhome?
re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
80% of marriages I have seen where a girl from here marrying back home have ended in divorce.... BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT many people on here have such successful marriages and have seen successful marriages.
re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Your parents are wrong. Collective effort (in some cases individual) of both spouses is required. Like RV claims that both spouses need some time to establish bond.
marriage is fair game, and if bbcd guys/gals find compatibility in guys/gals from back-home then why not.
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Nothing to add here. But last and only time I had come across poster named chochi chi bachi was during India-Pakistan world cup 1.5 yrs ago. Was amused by the name - and glad to run across said name again :)
re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
Nothing to add here. But last and only time I had come across poster named chochi chi bachi was during India-Pakistan world cup 1.5 yrs ago. Was amused by the name - and glad to run across said name again :)
once upon a time i was a very active user lol...and thanxyou :D
re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
How you get into the marriage has little to do with how long the marriage lasts. It's how you behave, how hard you work at keeping the relationship going, etc that determine its fate.
re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
No it's not necessary, but it implies to the man from back home as well. Marriages break regardless of which town and country u are from, there's no guarantee that you'd be able to last ur marraige with pakistani guy forever. It's ur personal prefernce you are most compatible and comfortable.
Also dont underestimate the pakistani guys capability, give them a chance too never know u like them when u get to know them more closely. I know very nice, educated and good looking boys in pakistan which I think are way ahead of many guys in uk in every way.
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Well, I hve this one UK guy fraand and he married a girl from the Pakistan and they dievorced before the rukhsatie.
And then I am also knowing this UK born and praised guy who married a girl that wuz also conceived and brought-up in UK and they dievorced before they even had their first baby. Very upsetting.
Also, I am the seeing this FOB who got married to UK girl and he was only in my UK neighbordhood for 1 week before he got dievorced and his arse deported to Pakistan.
Oh wait wait wait. There was also this FOB dude who married a FOB dudette and they split up before they could make little FOBlings.
Re: If 2 people from uk get married to eachother then there marriages break?
How you get into the marriage has little to do with how long the marriage lasts. It's how you behave, how hard you work at keeping the relationship going, etc that determine its fate.
Re: If 2 people from UK get married to each other then their marriage breaks?
^ Sure. But people change. People who have similar values and priorities in their twenties may not once they are older. Still that doesn't mean their marriages are doomed.
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thats my parents thought lol, i just thought i'd see how true it is ;)
This is your parent's view....one that they may share with many people. But it's just their opinion. And an opinion is neither true nor false. So, you can't determine how "true" their views are. Experiences will vary.
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It's hard for others and for the OP herself to listen to reason when her heart is not open to it.
Bachi, what exactly are your fears about marrying someone who grew up in Pak? You will find people who are the exceptions to your generalizations.
Maybe telling your parents what qualities you want in a guy will help narrow down their search so that a rishta candidate isn't so off the mark, thus saving you some time, energy, and drama. You can try telling your parents that you'll make the effort to keep an open mind about their rishta suggestions provided that they consider your requirements (age, job, physical description,e tc) and also consider UK-raised guys as well. Try bargaining with your parents.
If you're so certain that you can't stand up to your parents, then go along with their rishta suggestions but set some guidelines about what you want. Sitting there and complaining complaining complaining but not making any effort to help yourself....will leave you feeling stuck. I hate the whole rishta search process and i know how tough it can be reconciling your head and your heart and dealing with a range of conflicting emotions. I was still a kid at 20. You're young, take your time with finding the right person, but be careful as well. You'd be surprised how quickly time can pass you by and that too has its consequences when it comes to rishtas...especially for desi girls.
