In the spirit of new year, what are some things you would like others to change about themselves? Everyone makes personal resolutions because that’s something we have control over. Let’s discuss some things that if we all as a society were to adapt, the world would be a better place.
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Altaf Hussain should stop delivering speeches and should join Bollywood as comedian
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I’ll start. I am a Pakistani-Canadian. I consider myself traditional and somewhere in between conservative and liberal.
As a Pakistani girl, I wish our people didn’t have so many double standards. For instance, there is a long list of things that my brothers are allowed to partake in, but it would never be acceptable for me to try out. For example, a road trip to Niagara Falls with close friends of the same gender (friends who have met my family and who are more or less the same as us) … I am always told “wait till you are married and then you can go anywhere you want with your husband.” Another example would be sharing responsibility for housework. There is a lot that my brothers get away with simply because they are guys.
I wish there was more fairness and equality in Pakistanis.
As a Canadian, I have seen skilled immigrants struggling for many years (sometimes their whole life) to be accepted and given a break. I wish there were more programs and help available to the newcomers to educate and guide them through the process of establishing a foot in a completely new place. I also wish that Pakistanis abroad were more kind and welcoming to the freshie Pakistanis. I have personally seen how helpful Indian community is to their own. Ours, on the other hand, lets our own insecurities and jealousy get the better of us. I wish for a change in attitude and regard for others.
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hehe, app se political comment ki hi tawwaqu thi.
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main to PA main bhi nahin jata
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^as far as doubl standard r cncernd, women r nt allowd to go out with Na-mahram. It z a decision ov ALLAH n his Prophet (PBUH). It z in their favr, infact 4 their Protectn. Open Qurran and read SURAH-E-NISHA. I hav gven u referenc. Thankz.
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Where did you get the na-mahram part in my post? I said friends of the same gender. I am a girl and would be going out with other girls. What’s wrong with that?
ps: I think you mean Surah e Nisa, not nisha.
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^I was at fault. U r righ. Yes, goin with gals z nt wrong. Sorry. I should hav rd that properly
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Koi baat nahin.
Share yours please. What would you like to see less of?
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Actually main soch rahi thi app bolenge, bazaaru language khatam ho jaaye tu maujan hi maujan.
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I’d know nothing about this last one. Haven’t met enough Pakistanis to figure out how helpful they are over here. The ones I have met are not that bad, however they’re people who know me through my dad or my uncle.
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For Canadian Govt I would say that they are fooling immigrants about job opportunities they provide and once you landed you find what mistake have you made. No jobs for immigrants relevant to their education and profession unless you have some Canadian experience or strong network otherwise you’ll end up in a warehouse s**t. On the top our people, not all of them are not helpful enough to guide you and help you and it depends on which community you belong too and lastly, working with our own people is the worst experience I had.
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^ Khan, I agree. Unfortunately, the gov’t is only interested in increasing population but offers very little help to the newcomers in making a smooth and successful transition. There are those who have been able to “upgrade” their degrees, so to speak, and eventually they’re better off because of it. But most people whose budgets are tight can’t afford to go back to school full time, and their responsibilities force them to pursue other readily available (albeit less glamorous) options. Overtime they either lose the energy/drive to move up the ladder or they get too comfortable in their routine.
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I was talking in general about all Pakistanis, regardless of where they live.
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My mum used to be like that and say ‘after marriage’ as well.. When I pointed out all the married girls who couldn’t go away because of household responsibilities/work/issues with inlaws she would just go quiet..
I used to just book my tickets and go.. Luckily my dad was more understanding..
When I have kids I’ll encourage them to travel as much as they can.. I think two or more girls travelling together is usually safe anyway (as long as they have basic common sense)..
Two girls travelling through Europe. Human Centipede film dekhi aap nai? 
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I should have used the phrase relatively easy. Parents could quote horror stories from the news paper and that’d just end the discussion.
When it comes to housework there is no rationale for why they don’t do any. There going to do it when they get married, I’m pretty sure of that. So if they can do it for their spouses ( in the future ), why not do for their parents too. You could think of countless reason for them to help you out. You’ll have to be persistent though.
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What happens in the horror stories would probably have a one in a million chance of happening here in reality..
To me it’s more dangerous to bring up girls who are very sheltered and/or naive about the world.. I don’t ever want daughters who are totally dependent on their husbands or families.. I see it in quite a few aunties, that fear of doing things by themselves..
Partyslims, your post reminds me I never got round to watching HC2 