So, a common case!
My parents want me to marry my cousin who lives in Karachi.The rishta was kind of done in childhood itself though both families fully confirmed it one and a half year before, even without asking me.Right from many years I have been having argument with my parents on this that I do not want to marry him but they have never been willing to hear and their reasons being:
a) Because his mother (who was my phuppo) always wanted to have me as her daughter-in-law,though she is now no more in this world .
b) Because he is our relative only,so, however he is, so even if I may or may not get anything else out of this marriage,but I would have a stable marriage as it would never end as there would never be anything like divorce
which is not possible if marrying a stranger.
Now my reason for rejecting him is that, he lacks proper education.He is some classes pass, and that also not from a proper school but from some institute,etc
He is just a street wanderer who just acts as if he knows everything, and his acting is what actually makes my parents believe he is a smart,intelligent and educated person ![]()
On advise of few of my friends, I tried to get to know him, with the hope that I may end up liking him,but when I just exchanged few sms messages with him, I realized that I can’t live my life with him
. I even told him to continue his education, and complete it but the reply I got from him was that, he is happy with the education he has
Then what’s the fault of mine!!! ![]()
Now, my parents believe that, once married,i will start liking him, but i know myself better and i know that,no matter what, i will not like him even after marriage,because the kind of personality he has and the way he is, it just annoys me sooo very much! ![]()
So, almost every day the arguments between me and my parents continue, so much so that, now my dad has even started saying that, now he regrets making me get educated
If that guy has no interest in education, then what’s the fault of mine? ![]()
So now, according to my parents, there’s no way they could say no to his family, as they have said yes infront of many people,and saying no would simply cause quarrels,embarassement,etc ![]()
After that rishta, a couple of families actually contacted my parents who were interested to come forward with rishta, but my parents declined them, saying they have already done my rishta with that cousin, grrrrrrr!
So, now I am actually fed up with these arguments.I don’t know what to do. When I think of the marriage,it makes me feel like crying
By what way can i make my parents stop from letting this marriage happen?