I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!

[SameenaQ]

Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!

@Reha

You took a break from your husband because he was having financial issues…wow. Newsflash: HIS issues are YOUR issues. Whatever happens to him in his life is also your issue and problem. Marriage is not about staying together when he’s got money in his pocket…its about staying together no matter what. SO when your husband makes a logical suggestion, your dad asks you to divorce your husband and you do what? OP - You’re 30 years old and have been married twice in 2 years. This alone seems like a really immature thing to do…but let’s forget that for a minute. First off, YOU NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOME. Its YOUR husband, YOUR finances, YOUR home and YOUR marriage. It seems as if you haven’t really accepted him as a partner otherwise you would never have walked away. Second, WHERE IS YOUR HEAD AT WOMAN? Who on earth lies about her husband’s behavior like this? Who lies through their teeth about their spouse and humiliates them? I wouldn’t be surprised if he never wanted to see your face again. Third, YOUR DAD. Where does he get off telling you to divorce your husband? Its NONE of his business unless you made it his business which you did. Your conscious seems to only work when it comes to your father. What about the man who’s reputation you’re dragging through the mud? Fourth, stop playing victim and helpless. Ilzaam rakhtay huway dar nahin lagta…lekin now you’re helpless? Grow a backbone, grow UP and fix your marital issues on your OWN. Your husband isn’t your daddy’s property and its best you stop treating him like it. Hadd hoti hai.

My husband always fought for me. Even to his parents in a nice way. To stop mis-treating me. But i wanted him to just leave his parents and live with me only. I am not punishing him, i didn’t want to. but my father is punishing him. I cannot defy and leave my parents too. I felt cheated when he said we should separate. It is true, i was running to my house every two and three days whenever any problem come in. My husband always condoned violence of any kind but sad part is, he wouldn’t ever trust me again. Because i told him my first husband was abusive. It is my father’s fault. onhaen sahee mashooraa deena chah ye tthha. Now i am stuck.