I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!

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Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!

@SameenaQ

Hey All, My name is Sameena and i am 30 years old. I am from US. I have been married once before when i was 29. My first husband has been physically abusive to me. I divorced him and moved on. Met other guy, he is my current husband. I married to him in July of this year. Relationship between me and my husband has been smooth. No major fights or argument. Except my husband was having financial problems. One day i decided to leave him and came back to my parents. Because my mom asked me to come to house for few weeks to clear my mind. When i came back to my parents i brought all my belongings with me from that house. I didn’t contact him for three days after that. Nor he has contacted me. When i finally called him following four days after, he seemed very very annoyed. And told me we should just separate because i was being very immature in this relationship. We talk three days after that, because he texted me. I called him, we both had very calm discussion on the phone. He was very sad and crying on the phone. And said sorry to me so many times. Long story short: i sent Khula’aa notice to him and i have accused him of mental and physical torture. Because that is what my father told to write on that piece of paper. This is going on since we have been separated beginning of November of this year. My father called him and threatened and asked him to divorce me because he was angry that my husband has called out for separation–not divorce. My father is very protective and told me it is better to be single than being marry to such a man. He has now agreed to divorce me and his condition is that i need to take out mental and physical torture. He didn’t want to divorce me. But my father is forcing me to divorce him. I have no way to talk to my husband. My father asked me not to contact him again. Cherry on top i texted him not to contact me. It has been 2 months, we are going back and forth through masjid. I am scared of my father. I do not want divorce, i will be committing major major sin by accusing him for such crime. He won’t ever take me back. I hate myself every living day. Now i regret my decision. What do i do? please help. I hope my husband is reading this i just want to tell him i love him and please do not divorce me. He is completely innocent of all the charges i laid on him. He is very sweet guy. Allah meein kyya karuun. Meein onkee samnnai nazzar nahin mila sktee. My husband offered me to come talk to him in presence of scholar. I refused. Because my father told me he will disown me if i decide to go back to my husband.

if you were living in some remote village in pakistan I would have understood you cannot contact your husband but in the US , No way ! so you’re saying you cannot leave the house at all , not even to go to the Dr, Supermarket , to see friends etc at the age of 30 ? You’re dad can’t be watching over you 24/7 . think of ways. If you really want to contact him , you WILL find a way. Such as a new email address if you’re father has the passwords to your other ones.

If if you really don’t want him to divorce you , do something about it otherwise you will have nothing but regret. Also, do not take falsely accusing your husband of abuse so lightly. Think of the consequences… Your lie will affect his reputation and may well lead to a criminal charge . not to mention the gunnah.

You still have time . Contact him asap and make things right.