Okay so, i was introduced to a guy through a friend who said that he was looking to get married. Though that friend of mine doesn’t know him well but he said that i could try getting to know him & see if things could work out.
I haven’t met him yet, just have exchanged few emails with him. He is like 5 - 6 years older than me. In emails, he just shared general things about his life like where he grew up, studied, about his work, etc.. & what i could gauge about him is that he seems to be a nice, honest, calm & religious person, just like a person i would want in life. He works as an engineer in a oil field company.
So after 4 - 5 days of exchanging emails, he actually wrote to me that, better he be frank & honestly tell me that, since his work isn’t easy, his work has affected his health & because of that, he keeps on losing his hair, he has neuro problems & also he is diabetic, so that’s why he said he thinks it’s better i move ahead with my life & find someone else better. And he wrote that, since his work is hard, he would leave his work & leave this country in few months & go & live with his brother in Canada, & that he would think of marriage only once he sorts out his health problems.
When he wrote all that, i just calmly accepted all that. But after that, i was just quite hurt. i felt like i didn’t want to lose him . And after that, i prayed Istikhara twice regarding him & first time i felt as if it was negative & when i prayed it the second time, it was positive.
Now iam just sooooo confused. I just don’t know what to do. Shall i just forget all about him or shall i give it a chance? I just don’t understand why does he have such a strong impact on me
Maybe he diden’t want to take this email relation further,that’s why he toled u these things so you urself backout from the situation:hoonh:,if he felt something for you then he might hv tackle it differently..
you don't base your decisions on istiKhara...it's NOT like God telling you to persue this guy...istiKhara is NOT meant for that...istiKhara is taken in a wrong way as a "litmus test"...well, it isn't!
if the guy clearly told you to move on then you have no other choice but to move on. you can't be emotionally attached to this guy in a few days. it's like window shopping. you like this dress and you wanna have it! this ain't gonna work...MOVE ON!!! :) Good Luck, iA something better is awaiting you just around the corner! be positive, believe in yourself and take it from there! :)
After 5 days??? Are you on any mood altering medication? (I'm not making fun of you. It's a serious question...some girls take diet pills or BC pills for skin conditions).
It's just an attachment. It'll wear off. Give it time and let it go. You can't figure out someone in 5 days especially when you haven't even met in person.
He told you that he’s not thinking about marriage right now, and has no interest in pursuing anything further with you. How can you give this a chance when he told you that he’s not interested in pursuing this?!
Don’t make life complicated for yourself. Move on. After not talking to him and not exchanging e-mails with this guy…wait and see how strong your “feelings” are a month from now.
Did you get the impression that he is interested in you?
Maybe he's just being nice and his "health reasons" are a polite way of saying he is not interested.
Your feelings aroused due to your soft and sensitive nature. Practically, he is not interested in you due to his own medical reasons and communicating for 5 days with stranger may develop few feelings but the intensity you have at the moment is because he got soft corner in your heart. I am not saying that you are wrong, but you also need to justify your feelings rationally.
. And after that, i prayed Istikhara twice regarding him & first time i felt as if it was negative & when i prayed it the second time, it was positive.