I wonder what's wrong with me...

[pinkyy]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

you need a thappar.

btw i remember saying that to you a while ago about some other imaginary boyfriend too. i think.

No, you are wrong.

[krmaml1]

Re: I wonder what’s wrong with me…

@pinkyy

he wrote to me that since his work isn’t easy, it has affected his health & because of that, he keeps on losing his hair, he has neuro problems & also he is diabetic, so that’s why he said he thinks it’s better i move ahead with my life & find someone else better.

Men are usually very humble even when rejecting someone. Instead of making the other person feel they didnt measure up to their standards.
But I think when he said “you deserve someone better” it wasnt convincing to you.

[Reha]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

He's not interested. Neither are you.

The only reason you're feeling this is because HE called it quits.

You'll be fine.

[Biariz]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

What kind of neuro problems he has? Losing hair is such a common thing now a days. Ask him to provide some details. One shouldn't leave a person only because he has diabetes. It could happen with anyone and its also so much common.
I dont know but it just came in my mind that he is making up all these excuses and if not then he is really a very nice person who cares for you but you should think from your brain rather than heart :)

If you like him and he is honest with you and he has no neruo problems then my advice is to go for him. :)

[pinkyy]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

@Biariz

What kind of neuro problems he has? Losing hair is such a common thing now a days. Ask him to provide some details. One shouldn't leave a person only because he has diabetes. It could happen with anyone and its also so much common. I dont know but it just came in my mind that he is making up all these excuses and if not then he is really a very nice person who cares for you but you should think from your brain rather than heart :) If you like him and he is honest with you and he has no neruo problems then my advice is to go for him. :)

Yes, but what if his health issues may really be excuses he may be making? I don't really have an idea that how much truth is there in his talks.Well, I thought perhaps he may be just scared of commitment. He had shared once that he had an older sister & brother who have almost reached the age of 40 but still unmarried. So I just thought perhaps these guys may have issues with commitment/marriage.. :)

[Sara516]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

@Biariz

What kind of neuro problems he has? Losing hair is such a common thing now a days. Ask him to provide some details. One shouldn't leave a person only because he has diabetes. It could happen with anyone and its also so much common. I dont know but it just came in my mind that he is making up all these excuses and if not then he is really a very nice person who cares for you but you should think from your brain rather than heart :)

If you like him and he is honest with you and he has no neruo problems then my advice is to go for him. :)

Are you kidding me? The dude said he's not interested--do you suggest she ignore what he said and nag him til he likes her?

Sheesh!

[Desire007]

His health problems don't seem that terrible at all. You need to follow this up, tell him that you will help and support him. It's difficult to find a nice partner these days, most men r idiots unfortunately. If this guy really is that nice and ur feelings after prayer r positive, go for it. Cos you know after marriage health problems also occur when you spend a lifetime with someone, so what's the difference in before or after. Find out the full extent of his health problems, since it is important for you to have that awareness and to prepare yourself.

[queer]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

^she knows him from 4-5 days of emails. should she really throw herself at him like you are suggesting? 0_o

[_Passionate]

Re: I wonder what’s wrong with me…

^Queer:

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[queer]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

lawll (you gonna get her mad atchu!)

[khattichic]

Re: I wonder what’s wrong with me…

@_Passionate

^Queer:

:rotfl:

[Half_rupee]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

you just feel sorry/sympathy for him thats all.

[pastriess1989]

Re: I wonder what's wrong with me...

you need a thappar.

btw i remember saying that to you a while ago about some other imaginary boyfriend too. i think.

LOLLLL

[Hmmna]

Re: I wonder what’s wrong with me…

@pinkyy

Okay so, i was introduced to a guy through a friend who said that he was looking to get married. Though that friend of mine doesn’t know him well but he said that i could try getting to know him & see if things could work out.

I haven’t met him yet, just have exchanged few emails with him. He is like 5 - 6 years older than me. In emails, he just shared general things about his life like where he grew up, studied, about his work, etc.. & what i could gauge about him is that he seems to be a nice, honest, calm & religious person, just like a person i would want in life. He works as an engineer in a oil field company.
So after 4 - 5 days of exchanging emails, he actually wrote to me that, better he be frank & honestly tell me that, since his work isn’t easy, his work has affected his health & because of that, he keeps on losing his hair, he has neuro problems & also he is diabetic, so that’s why he said he thinks it’s better i move ahead with my life & find someone else better. And he wrote that, since his work is hard, he would leave his work & leave this country in few months & go & live with his brother in Canada, & that he would think of marriage only once he sorts out his health problems.

When he wrote all that, i just calmly accepted all that. But after that, i was just quite hurt. i felt like i didn’t want to lose him . And after that, i prayed Istikhara twice regarding him & first time i felt as if it was negative & when i prayed it the second time, it was positive.

Now iam just sooooo confused. I just don’t know what to do. Shall i just forget all about him or shall i give it a chance? I just don’t understand why does he have such a strong impact on me

I think you are feeling more pity than anything else and also you want to ‘rescue’ him, which of course you can’t, so once again

move on.

[Half_rupee]

Re: I wonder what’s wrong with me…

your experiancing somthing called “mother complex”

[Man_with_a_Plan]

Have you seen his picture or confirmed his stories from your friend or an authentic source?

Can you give me your e-mail address, I'm a great person to talk to :p