I Wish

Wane · July 29, 2012, 6:57pm

Re: I Wish

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I’m not going to disagree with your post like many here are doing … I do favour married life, not because I’m married … I don’t necessarily favour it because it’s easier, it’s not necessarily easier. …
Anyone here who would like to argue that being a single career woman has the same meaning in life as a mother and wife are deluded.

People here have been arguing the angle that married life is difficult … but I don’t think any of them say it is not fulfilling … unless they have creeps for husbands - in which case it won’t last.

What I think you are coming to realise is the “natural disposition” a human be they male or female are made in the Divinely inspired design to co-habit with another, raise children and create more society. This is the aspect missing from your life at the moment.

Then education has availed us naught … we have merely become a cog in the industrial/capitalistic well oiled machine. - This machine favours solitary people who have no devotion to family - but only to the cause.

Likewise, if marriage has not brought upon us the above traits then marriage is not beneficial either. But it has one thing - it offers a natural course to life … and an opportunity to raise someone else - like a second chance for our own lives, in the person of another who shares our DNA. Often an educated person can lose sight of humility, often a person subjected to society in the younger years can acquire dirty habits like being argumentative, rudeness and being obnoxious. They are not truly educated according to my understanding of the term. Even if they can string a sentence together, grammar perfect. What is the point if they use irony, condescending, complex slur just to hurt another person’s feelings or just to make their own “power” known?

Marriage is about sacrifice, but being happy in that sacrifice - let no one think or convince you otherwise … Both parties benefit not from the other, but from the side-effect of trying to be beneficial for the other. Marriage is not about finding a mate that will benefit us, but finding a person who WE would like to benefit. A job is on the whole a selfish venture … but marriage should not be that … it should not be an investment … it should be a way to express our desire to help another, and then others - through children. Sometimes the unlearned, humble wives of Pakistan realise that more than our educated women … Perhaps our men do not realise that we should also view marriage this way … We want “sexy” to show off to our peers and social circles - “look at my trophy” … attitude … No - marriage is not about that either.

Lastly … start to think how you life has led you to certain conclusions and reflect on how one can be “virtue” focussed rather than anything else that current life and society con us in to trying to acquire.

loved your post psyah but who is gonna believe you here …