I wear the pants in the house!! do I?

I understand doofus :) (sorry I felt like saying that).

Desi gals get married fairly early in their lives so they want to breathe, grow, acquire something - be somebody. Let her grow.

If one person is marriage is growing - doesn't mean the other one is shrinking.

She married you for the guy you are and be true to yourself. No need to make it competetion.