i want to put a bullet in my head

I need to vent, yes. u have become my victim. No doubt, I am depressed.

I’ve been struggling with things this year, and im just sick and tired of it.

I cant cry and let it out, cause i see no point. But im sick and tireddd.

Besides the fact that my physical apperance is killing me…everyone tells me i look sick and ugly. my face is skinny and all you see is my nose. I hear it every day from my mom.

I have been struggling with acne for over 9 years. I have grey hair, and im losing so much hair. and im only in my early 20’s.
This past year, i’ve developed some sort of stomach problem, like constipation. And I AM CONSTANTLY BLOATED and feel sick. I think i may have IBS, which makes me want to bawl.

On top of everyhting. My skin has been irritating me so much over the past few weeks, and i think i may have KP. its disgusting.

The idea of the hair on my body and face irritates me… i wanna cry, I feel like i can never feel beautiful.

Besides that, school wise i feel like a failure im almost done post secondary…and now what? i suck at job interviews, i dont want to work in my program and im not sure what the hell i want to do after, and where i wanna go…i have 0 ambition and desire to start anything.

i feel completely useless and ugly and lost, and dumb.

i can keep going.

but i’ll stop

and please i dont want to hear, there are other ppl going thru worst stuff. i hear it all the time.
I want to vent, LET ME .

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:hugz:

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its necessary to vent, in one way or another, everybody does
crying helps a lot (not to imply that u deserve it, but dil halka hojata hai)
there's something called emotional constipation, the stuff really builds up

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oh boyy bad day for everyone today it seems :frowning:

:hugz:

there’s more to life than just looks… its not the end of the world and it could all be “fixed” with time and meds… may Allah swt grant you good health. Thats the most important thing sweetheart :slight_smile:

I know that stress can take a toll over physical appearance. TRUST ME, I've been through it. When you've been under stress for a long time, you can experience an upset stomach. But the anxiety also shows on your face and hair. You begin to look tired and haggard and sometimes even weak. You hair can start falling out and become gray. So, try to understand that this condition is not permanent. Once you make efforts to alleviate the stress in your life, you will feel more relaxed, and this will reflect in your face, body language, and confidence.

Acne can be depressing. But it can be cured. Talk to your dermatologist about skin and hair problems. The dermatologist can recommended treatments that eliminate your acne in a short amount of time such as a series a of chemical peels, or laser treatment. Laser treatment will not only fade your acne but it will also shrink your oil glands so that you will have less acne in the future.

Your skin and hair will appear more healthy if you are healthy on the inside. So try to eat healthy (protein, fruits, veggies), drink plenty of water, exercise, and get sufficient sleep. If you do this for just a couple of weeks, you will notice an improvement in how you look and FEEL. If you continue this, it will make an even bigger difference. When you have put your body through stress for a long time........it will take some time to bring it back to working order. But IT CAN BE DONE!

And confidence will make even an average looking person look more attractive. As far as job interviews are concerned, practice the interview with a sibling, friend, or career adviser at school. If you're not sure what you want to do, take a break and make a list of activities that appeal to you or skills that you have. And see if you can get a job that will make use of those skills.

Lack of vitamins can trigger depression. So make sure you take a multivitamin. An effective way to relieve depression is to involve yourself in activities where you are helping others. So, take the time out to volunteer and help others out. It will boost your confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with friends who can support and encourage you. You can also find relief in praying regularly and making dua. Another option is to read books on development of self-esteem.

Try these strategies for some time. Be patient, give it time. If you don't find relief, then you can consider consulting a doctor or therapist.

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:rotfl: i apologize but it just tickled me funny.
though i hope you donot go ahead with the bullet plan. most of these things you will grow out of, just try to ignore your mum for meanwhile

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lol, u sound JUST like my sister.

vent all you want... there there...

It'll be ok...

have you tried somethign for the acne? have u seen a doc regarding hairloss? u might be missing something in ur diet..

i know what you mean about the after the post-secondary school stuff. it is so discouraging when you work so hard to get to university and then you get didley squat after cause things didnt exactly go as planned..

quite a blow to the self

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:hugz:

recite Surah Fatiha, and other Quranic ayat as much as you can.
dont worry aobut the material things, only work towards making ALLAH SWT happy. and avoid these suicidal thoughts…before you regret em :frowning:

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Wow! I can imagine myself writing at least half of that...the same complaints in life. My heart goes out to you...

If you need somebody to talk to, then you can talk with me...we can respect eachother's anonymity and perhaps, still connect. I'm in my early 20s as well.

Take care.

Hey i can't advise on jobs (after all, im unemployed) but as for your body stuff, the good thing is that these issues are treatable. I'm sure once they are treated, you will feel much better.

this is what worked for me

-make sure you eliminate regularly. Extra cholesterol comes out in our tut. Cholesterol is also the precursor to making androgens. So if the cholesterol doesn't come out, you end up with a bunch of cholesterol floating around your blood making extra male hormones. So regular BM =less cholesterol = less androgens =less zit causing sebum. you can try hot tea or ispaghol (psyllium) in hot water.

-healthy fats (avocados, fish, nuts). These will reduce inflammation and lubricate your GI tract.

-colored fruits/veggies add fiber and antioxidants.

-too much fiber can actually clog you up because it sucks up water in your digestive tract. so remember to increase water intake proportionately.

-don't start eating more fiber when you're already constipated. it's more a prevention thing.

-sometimes you go out and nothing is entirely healthy. dont totally give up, you can still order whole wheat instead of white, water instead of diet coke, etc.

-you could also ask your PCP for a referral to an allergist/endocrinologist/derm. But I think it's best to try the small steps first.

-don't be too hard on yourself- implement whatever you feel like, and once you get even minor results, im sure you'll be motivated to do more.

A full course load is what...15 hours a week? let's add studying 15 hours, and sleeping 56 hours. You still have about 80 hours left. So you prob will have more spare time now than at any other time in your life! later on, when your time is monopolized by a job or hubby or kids, it's a lot harder. so this is actually a great time to make the changes you want in your career and your health. keep coming back to gs, there are a lot of supportive ppl here.

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I hope you feel better now hun...please hang in there...it always gets worse before it gets better.

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Something to cheer u up :slight_smile:

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if it makes u feel any better, i have KP too...really severe one...had it all my life. I think about it pretty much everyday. But what can you do? I've been to 10 diff. derms...tried everything and it gets better but those little red/brown spots just never go away.

If i were you i'd pay the derm a visit about hair loss and ur skin. I'd get a make over, go get a hair cut and buy new makeup. Go shopping for some cute clothes. Hang out with friends. And since you look sickly and skinny I would eat a lot! Not only would you look healthier by gaining weight it'll also make you happy! I mean...there's a reason why fat people are usually so jolly :)

And most importantly, pray and make lots of dua.

On no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns. (Pray:) ''Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget or fall into error; our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which Thou didst lay on those before us; our Lord! lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins, and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. Thou art our Protector; help us against those who stand against Faith.'' Al-Baqarah, 2:286]

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Hun the only way you will ever feel better is if you can be strong all on your own and start dealing with each problem one at a time. You sound like theres not one person who can come and lift some of your depression off your shoulders. Ofcourse, its always helpful to have the other person, but its never necessary! It may take you 6 months or 2 years, but until you can strengthen yourself, nothing will start resolving itself.

If no one understands you, ALLAH will. Don’t underestimate that fact. Get as close as you can to ALLAH. I don’t know about you but when i went through my depression, a part of me lost my faith my religion. But as soon as i took my first step of realizing that i was depressed (which you have already taken) my first run was to ALLAH.

When i was young i was told that ALLAH is closest to us in distance around fajir time, if its true or not, i believed it then i will always believe it. So i used to wake up around 4-5am and cry my heart out and make duas and tell ALLAH everythings that was in my heart. For over 6months these were my therapy sessions.

Until you talk about everything thats inside of your heart and walk towards ALLAH, remember (you take 1 step to ALLAH he takes 10 towards you) you will never achieve the confidence you need to live in this world.

You may have 9 years of acne and you may be skiny but thats all temporary. As soon as you gain your strength, you will be one of the prettiest girls!!! And i know as soon as you read that you thought to yourself what is this girl kidding herself, but no joke without confidence there is no beauty.

And you not looking inside of yourself. I bet you, you have over a million great things about you, and if i was in front of you i would make you write them down.

And when you do gain your confidance, you will do great at job interviews:). But don’t take everything on alll at once, you will never get to your goal. Do one thing at a time. You should start whereever you want, but if you were to ask me i’d start with ALLAH.

p.s you can pm me anytime to vent :kiss:

It's very cruel that ur Mum speaks to u like that, parents are the ones who are meant to reassure us that everything is going to be ok, not knock us down and I'm sure the things she says hurt a lot more than others cos she's ur Mum.

When I was in my v.early teens I developed psoriasis due to stress from constant problems with my Mum as well (slightly different we clashed as she suddenly became religious) but as our relationship improved and I became happier it kinda disappeared so I know how emotional problems can affect ur confidence and appearance. Like redvelvet has said go and see a dermatologist regarding ur skin problems, even when severe, these problems can be treated nowadays with things like tca peels, laser etc. and as ur confidence in urself improves u will prob find u'll start doing better in studies or job interviews. See a doctor abour ur hair loss and like others have said try and eat healthily. Spend more time with friends so u have a good 'network' of support that will hopefully prevent u from feeling too down, the more time u spend on ur own the more u'll tend to dwell on things and end up feeling more and more depressed.

Please try and start to take positive steps so u can get urself out of this situation, I know it's really difficult but if u don't try and pull urself up u may end up falling even further, the sooner u deal with it the sooner u can get better and inshAllah start moving forward and enjoying ur life. Ur only in ur early twenties u have ur whole life ahead of u, job, independence, having a family, all the best things are still 2 come :)

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this sounds depressing..i would really advise you to see a doctor for the medical problems that you have...Also try to eat healthy i mean greens and fruits..that would help with your constipation..Regarding your mom its quite possible that she is stressed out seeing you depressed and stressed out..I know its tough time but you know tough times never last..sohope iA soon you will have positive things going on in your life..
Hope you come out of these times soon and i ll definitely remember you in my duas

Nice Information,
Tnx for this .

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it'll be okay man
just try to be happy
ignore those people who say bad stuff about u
they themselves might have insecurities

just be thankful to ALLAH SWT for everything

woww i did not about "don't start eating more fiber when you're already constipated. it's more a prevention thing."

i have the same problem...and doc gave me colace...im hesitant in taking it...cause i dont want my body to rely on it..:(