Re: I think I’m a horrible person…
Exactly!! What pisses me off though is that his parents are still spending extravagantly even though FIL has been forced to quit his job due to his illness and hubby is supporting them financially. His mom loves to shop. In all fairness, she’s a lovely woman and has never been anything but kind to me. She’s just really careless about money and sucks at saving. It doesn’t help that FIL always indulges her.
Recently, hubby politely asked them to cut down on the extravagant spending a bit since he cannot afford to run two households if they continue to spend like they are. We ourselves have pretty much stopped going out, but we got them a car, hired them a driver, a cook, a maid and are covering all of their regular expenses and FIL’s medical expenses so his (FIL’s) savings/severance pay can be put away as rainy day money. FIL got all mad at hubby though and was like “how dare you ask your mother to curtail her spending when I have never done so in my entire life, etc.” Which is sweet for MIL but not very practical. Ugh!
Regarding islamic financing, we have researched it and aren’t really convinced on the fiqh of it. Not gonna get into that here though. My parents have offered to pitch in $50k when we do end up buying, but I turned them down because I was being proud. It looks like I’ll have to accept it at this point though. I will make sure we pay them back but it just feels like I’m being so unfair to my parents and taking advantage of their generosity. It’s not like they are loaded or anything. They are just really economical about everything, unlike hubby’s family 