Re: I think 90% of Inlaw threads are the fault of the Brides/Bride to Be
If you are a DIL then you need to take responsibility despite the fact that the MIL is causing problems
If you are a MIL then you need to chill and give your DIL some space
Either way ... it is in your hands to deal with the situation ... Adab flows upwards so if not for the fact that she is your husbands mother you should respect her for her age over you even if she acts like a child ... in fact ... when people reach old age i.e. when you are in your middle ages and your parents or husbands parents live to see old age ... they will become very child like ... but we must become even softer on them ...
It is not about who starts the trouble ... that is not what defines the better person ... it is about who controls the situation to stop it getting sour. It's in your hands to do that ... whoever you are a DIL or a MIL.
Those DILs here who are taking the blame are on that path to success those DILs who are not are probably the very ones who are getting more and more problems with their MILs.