I think 90% of Inlaw threads are the fault of the Brides/Bride to Be

[Deeba1234]

Re: I think 90% of Inlaw threads are the fault of the Brides/Bride to Be

@PakiBride

I dont understand the issue here? we all have different lives… Just bcuz you admit to being wrong, doesn’t mean all DIL’s need to. infact it doesnt mean all DIL’s are wrong just bcuz you are. If you are “adult” enough to realize u have made a mistake to piss your MIL off, than i think us “Brides” or “bride to be” are smart enought to realize if we are right or wrong.

ur main reason is that a mother and son’s relationship is so close that a MIL cannot bear some other women coming in between them. but what if there isnt any close relationship between mother and son? when u dont know the facts, you shouldnt point fingers.

Also, ive seen the number one cause of MIL treating their DIL badly is pure jelousy. bcuz they didnt have the life their DIL has, or will have.

I KNOW SOME DIL’S WHO ARE SPOILED, AND DONT CONSIDER THEIR INLAWS AS THEIR FAMILY, BUT THATS THEIR BAD. if some1 reaches out for help, its best to help them by giving them advice.. not by pointing out how useless u think their posts are.

if you are happy, thats great! May Allah always keep you and ur family happy. but really, just realize that every1s situation is not the same as urs

So true.. My own mum never actually mistreated my SIL but the jealousy was obvious. She would complain about why my brother bought her an expensive engagement ring, why they were going out for dinner so often, even when my brother praised his MIL’s cooking she would say ‘what about mine?’ If they were going on holiday she would say how unfair it was that she wasn’t going lol.. Petty litttle insecurities but they can be grating and tiring to listen to.. My own mum like most of her generation obviously didn’t have anywhere near as much freedom as girls have today, she didn’t get to choose her wedding outfit, her engagement ring or anything whilst my SIL was able to pick what she wanted.. within reason..

I think that lack of control over her own earlier life turned her a bit bitter and resentful.. She prob thinks ‘I wasn’t able to do this or that so why should she?’

(Some guy on here made a thread once about problems with his fiancee and made excuses for the mum by mentioning a similar thing, she never had control of things in her own life so she should be allowed to now Why not try dealing with that first issue rather than trying to fix one ‘wrong’ with another?)

I do sometimes wonder if girls back then who weren’t happy were told by their mothers ‘don’t worry, when you become a mother things will change’