Re: I think 90% of Inlaw threads are the fault of the Brides/Bride to Be
I disagree with this-- The girls’ moms are 100% willing to send off their daughters for their happiness. They share a special bond, but sending them off to the in-laws is a bittersweet moment, they’re not really losing their daughters. A daughter won’t stop caring about her own mom, dad, sibs after getting married. they’re a lot more connected to their family in general.
Same can’t be said of guys - once they get married, they can forget completely about their family. Many probably aren’t big talkers/time spenders with the family, and now the family sees that he’s doing exactly that with his wife, despite his family being there for him his whole life. It’s like a slap in the face. I’m sure he still loves and cares for his family, he just doesn’t really show it. I know a girl who IMO is an excellent bahu, after the wedding his family seems to be an afterthought to him, she’s the one who wants him to help out his parents, go visit, find guys for his sister, etc, but he’s perfectly content in his own little world w/ her. She still is close with her sisters and and parents, and tries to maintain the bond with the in-laws too.
I’m sorry but brides need to be aware and give in-laws time to get used to it and need to do all they can from their side to assuage those feelings. Girl’s mom’s are giving their daughter away, but they still have her heart. Guys mom’s keep the son but might lose his love, which I think is more painful.