Re: I see this as a lack of self respect
The bottom line is I will put up with MILs visits, like I have done for the last ten years, for the sake of my husband. i will not express how I really feel to him because I know he would be very hurt. But at the same time I can't help how I feel. I can't make myself be happy and positive about something that I feel the opposite about. Not acting on my feelings is all I can do. That doesn't mean that I'm totally fake and friendly with her. I just try to maintain a balance, by being polite while she's in my home. Admittedly, this slips sometimes but we are all human. I started this thread to vent my frustrations and to get a view about what others think about my situation (boy, I sure got that!).
Ajuba, let me know if you want me to reopen the thread. I wish you well, and hope your relationship with your MIL will improve w/o you having to feel silenced. Just do what you can to have a good, loving family, and then if others don't return it, let it go.
Anyway, I'm closing the thread because the usual suspects have hijacked it. Let me know if you would like it reopened.