In my opinion a MIL does not have the right to come and stay at her son’s house for month’s at a time, just for a holiday. I think it is very inconsiderate, especially if the DIL has plainly made it clear that she does not like having her around. Seriously, a month to two month’s should be the max. what do you guys think? do your parents have the right to camp out at your home like this? Is it unreasonable of your wife to have a problem with it? For me personally, I will never do this and neither would my mum. So, I think my MIL has a lack of self respect for staying somewhere for such long periods of time where she knows she’s not wanted. And what about this desi mentality that MILs never stay for long periods at their own daughters homes because they don’t want to upset the husband. why doesn’t the same courtsey and consideration extend to your DILs??
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I have no problem with my MIL coming to live with me for a few months.. I think it's matter of how well you get along with each other because my mother had the best FIL and MIL masallah and they lived with her for years and hardly ever had any issue.
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har taraf mil & Fil ki kam-bhukti aye hoi hia. .
Seriously after reading all these threads and BS by brainless dumb ladies, i come to conclusion desi chicks are the worst when they get all they want.
To those guys who actually support these bs behavior and thoughts, please have life or die in chulo barh pani.
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I dont think MILs visiting is such a big issue at all Ajuba - its a visit - not a permanent camp she's setting up.
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I dont think MILs visiting is such a big issue at all Ajuba - its a visit - not a permanent camp she's setting up.
even if she do, then ?
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In my opinion a MIL does not have the right to come and stay at her son's house for month's at a time, just for a holiday.
please tell me that this is a joke .. a cruel one but still a joke ..
a woman who raised that guy, provided him with the best education, gave him the young years of her own life so he can grow up to be a successful man - she cannot visit that same son of her for more than one month because his NOBLE WIFE does not approve of that?
I am not sure whether to laugh or cry.
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Divorce your husband and find one with more considerate mother.
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:k:
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harsh words kid; she has all rights and much more.
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In my opinion a MIL does not have the right to come and stay at her son's house for month's at a time, just for a holiday. I think it is very inconsiderate, especially if the DIL has plainly made it clear that she does not like having her around. Seriously, a month to two month's should be the max. what do you guys think? do your parents have the right to camp out at your home like this? Is it unreasonable of your wife to have a problem with it? For me personally, I will never do this and neither would my mum. So, I think my MIL has a lack of self respect for staying somewhere for such long periods of time where she knows she's not wanted. And what about this desi mentality that MILs never stay for long periods at their own daughters homes because they don't want to upset the husband. why doesn't the same courtsey and consideration extend to your DILs??
From her perspective, it is also her son's place. So she can visit him and live there. It is clearly inconsiderate because she knows her DIL doesn't want her there. That doesn't look like a self-respect issue, but maybe enforcing her right over her son.
Now, things can get difficult if the DIL is supposed to do everything for her. That would obviously cause more friction between the couple and DIL and MIL.
That is a good point you raise about the courtesy towards SIL's but that same courtesy not being extended towards DILs. I don't know. Maybe because there is this belief that men "rule" the household. So, even if the wife doesn't want the MIL there, the husband can still bring mom over and the wife will have to deal with it. From the same logic, if wife's mom was over and the husband didn't like it, he can pressure the wife and make things difficult for her. In this case, the wife is the daughter, so they care more about her being unhappy.
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even if she do, then ?
Well, then its up to hubby darling to figure out how he plans on balancing both bivi and mummy.
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the more i read posts by women, the more i don't want a woman in my life.
I just hope women back home are better than women on GS or else i am ****** screw
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Well, then its up to hubby darling to figure out how he plans on balancing both bivi and mummy.
balancing bivi and mummy, how about sending begum sahiba to her home ? make sense - Yesh.
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the more i read posts by women, the more i don't want a woman in my life. I just hope women back home are better than women on GS or else i am **** screw**
back home its lil ******
...but here its more **************
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Ajuba, damn girl!!! Did she do some black magic on you or something? And here I always thought MIL should be treated like a 2nd mother.
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Of course…when your mummy is over…its not your bivi’s home anymore…right? Now her home is with her parents.
Yes, of course. Why dont you do that every time mummy comes over? Send your bivi back to her PARENTS’ home…and if she gets stubborn and decides to stay in HER home…divorce her and get another.
Then when the new one gets it in her head to be unfair to you by wanting to live in HER home peacefully…send her back too. Divorce her!
Good job! :k:
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No offense or anything ... but i think MIL have all thr rights to come and stay with their son ....for many reasons like .... i mean i understand from your perpective too .. like u might feel u have no privacy .. but thats life .. it's called compromising with eachother... personally i'm not anywhere near gettin married or any of that so i might not have an exact idea of how u feel .. but steel from my point of view i think it's ok if my "future" hus's mother came and stayed over for how ever long or even lived with us i wouldnt have any prob with that .. but again it depends .. what type of relation u have with your MIL ... like a lot of womens i know they dont like their in laws very much so they never feel that they are all a family together .. when a girl gets married .. she enters a new family and she should respect and have a really good behaviour towards her in laws cuz i've seen sooo sooo soo many girls/ladies getting divorced and what not ... just cuz their hus started hating them bcuz of their behaviour towards his mum / sis's ... obviously his not gonna think his families wrong.. cuz he has lived all his life with them .... and the other thing u said why MILS dont go over their daughters house adn stay much ... and the reason to that is ... cuz when daughters get married they are called " Parayee" so considering that mothers never go to their house much cuz they dont wanna creat any problems between the guy and the daughter .... but with sons they dont really watch out for that cuz .. it's their son .. anywayz my point was that girls out their shouldnt make such big deal outa little things like this ..... Learn to love everyone and everythin will be fine =)
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wow man im a girl ,married as well and seriously when i read some of these threads some of u ladies disgust me its like u have this idea in ur head like ur husband came falling from the sky no woman carried him 4 nine months no woman gave birth to him no woman had sleepless nights with him no woman changed his nappy no woman helped him through teething no woman took her son to school made sure had good grades got a gud job and god forbid a good wifee
allah can help some of u women only u bring the rest of the desi women down shame on u
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omg 
No, it isn’t lack of self respect but the fact that it is her son she wants to spend time with. She has all the rights to go stay with her son for as long as she wants. She is your husband’s mother, the one who gave birth to him, nurtured him…you just got him a few years ago, fully cooked, she’s made the deposits, you’re reaping the rewards, and now you have a problem with 1 month? This is sad. Really sad. Just put yourself in her shoes and tell me how you’d feel if your daughter in law doesn’t like you but you crave to be with your child? Your grandkids? She isn’t a guest, your home is hers too :(.
You should actually think about your attitude and try to change yourself. And also stop discussing these issues with your mother.
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the more i read posts by women, the more i don't want a woman in my life. I just hope women back home are better than women on GS or else i am ****** screw
Could not agree more. Just yesterday, these Hoors decided that guy's parents should not have a problem with their son moving out. And today, the mother coming to live with her son for a while is a "lack of self-respect".