I see this as a lack of self respect

[Deeba1234]

Re: I see this as a lack of self respect

@princessjojo

Unless your MIL has treated you badly or given you hell or takes pleasure in taane-baazi etc, I see no reason why you should have such an extreme attitude about her. If your loss of privacy is the only reason for your attitude, then such extreme views are very disturbing. It’s time for some introspection.

Agree but do also agree with ajuba regarding the bit she wrote at the end about how wives’ mothers don’t like to stay with them for fear of upsetting the husband. If a DIL has her husband’s mother coming to stay her own mother should be welcome as well. Also, both sets of inlaws should not interfere in the day to day running of the household or act in an unreasonable way, be overly critical of the DIL, expect her get up in the middle of the night to cook for them etc. Respect is a two-way thing..