re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Where are 16 year olds 'jail bait'? In the UK a 16 year old is a mother of 2 living in subsidised housing.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
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re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
ufffff.....even in this day and age, to not have the liberty to even reject a rishta is just too much. And its not like you have said no for for f*cks's sake !!!! there is a valid reason !!!!!! if only someone understood!!! I'm just not seeing your dad's point here. For any desi, a boy younger than the bride is supposed to be a big no-no along with the education requirements, so why is your dad going against two basic requirements ??? And if you did marry him, what is he going to do in UK ??? stay with your parents ???? Are your parents financially well off that this aunty does not mind an older bride for her son ????
Reg this not to stay alone at home, i think your parents are just trying to push you into a corner so that you will travel with them. Can you stay at a friends house initially and then once your parents are gone move back into your own house !! surely you will have the keys or stay with different friends. One week at each friends house. Do you have English/ Indian/ non muslim friends , some one who would not judge you on religious grounds for not obeying your parents. Just avoid going. If you don't go, you cant be married off.
Do you have siblings ??? Could you stay with them.
I know you are praying to god, but you need to take the action. He will only give you the strength to take the action. Imagine if you have all this hoopla going on here , what will happen in Pakistan where your dad will only gather support from any man who will listen to him. In fact I'm sure men from your immediate family and even random men will end up filling your dad's head with "mardangi" /"izzat" / "control your daughter" ideas !!!!
I was reading your earlier posts , you said you were going to married in march 2011, had you said yes before to this marriage ????
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re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
As long as the dude who impregnanted her is under 18 as well. 
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
If only, once your 16 your fair game a man of 80 can get you pregant and the police cant do anything.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
Lol those chavs have different laws altogether.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Lie and say you have an assignment that you need to start and immediately. Lie and say you're staying at a friend's place.
Lie for your safety if you have to but do not go to Pakistan.
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The threat of getting kicked out of the house is somewhat funny to me. In fact, it should be you who should threaten to leave the house or better tell them u will commit suicide if they continue to push you like that.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
tell them u will commit suicide if they continue to push you like that.
Some parents would prefer that then refusing a marriage, more honour in suicide then a broken engagement.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Unos - your situation sounds like mine? I thought at 16 its legal?? especially in the UK, or is it 18. I remember some girls getting pregnant at 16.
My parents are also saying - will just go to pakistan to attend the cousins wedding. There is no shopping for me going on - and about 3 suitcases for this other girl. To be honest I think they shouldn't take me, and if it really is a no - they shoulda said no already and them go and marry off this cousin to whoever - apparently he has lots rishtaa's for him - so theres no hard feelings.
Also - someone said about March - yeah I didn't agree to it - i was just like still in two minds and I was trying to go with it in my head - but then knew I wasn't being true to myself.
But I get the idea - it may be a engagement at this stage instead marriage - as theres no shopping and they said something like this - even though I have already said NO.
So I don't understand their mentality.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
If things get really desperate, and you can’t get out of it, you can always get your passport cancelled so you cant travel. go to a post office and get one of those passport application forms, put it in as a lost passport. or report it as lost and IPS will cancel it straight away. You need a separate replacement form. where you can get your new passport and you can get a new passport and hide it from your parents (i assume they have your passport). This way when you do arrive at the airport they will check your passport and say you can’t use it. it might cause problems and rift with your family but its better than being put in a bad situation in pakistan. You have the security of england as long as you keep your feet firm here.
They will be completely helpless and you will have the upper hand in this.
oh yeah you will need your old passport number to do this and preferably your parents numbers too (but you dont have to).
Really i think this is best in the meantime, you just need to get out of going to pakistan, saying you will stay at your friends house or got work wont work. you need to make yourself literally unable to travel.
Actually on second thought, report your passport lost and stolen and dont get it replaced until this all blows over. They could get that passport too and figure out what you’re doing.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Unos - your situation sounds like mine? I thought at 16 its legal?? especially in the UK, or is it 18. I remember some girls getting pregnant at 16
It's legal to marry at 16 in the UK but only with ur parent's consent.
Btw, can u be sure they aren't hiding any shopping (or it isn't being done in Pakistan, tho that's prob less likely)..
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Whatever you do, dont go to Pakistan.
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what did you think of my suggestion reha? Pretty crazy but it just might work, don't ya think? :D
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Does anyone know what happened to the OP? I remember reading this at the time, and now i was just curious about what she ended up doing after all. Just hoping it all went well with her. Sorry to bring up an old topic like this.
re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....
Does anyone know what happened to the OP? I remember reading this at the time, and now i was just curious about what she ended up doing after all. Just hoping it all went well with her. Sorry to bring up an old topic like this.
She wasn't forced into it, buuuut she went back and another cousin stroked her hair. Dun Dun Dun
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^memory 
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Naaah, just the knowledge of the user post/thread search function. If people used it more, you’d have a lot less topics being bumped from ages ago.
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Hope things get easier for you insh'Allah.