re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
Agree..
OP, try and get out of going to Pakistan, isn’t it likely things will get 100x worse over there where the rest of the family will also be there to heap on the pressure and emotional blackmail?
If u absolutely can’t make sure u do actually get to speak to someone from the Forced Marriage Unit before u go and also save the contact numbers on ur phone and laptop so if the worst happens u can reach them even if they can’t get in touch with u (esp if u’ve been moved to cousin’s house or something)..
Try and speak to a counsellor who has experience dealing with these issues if ur feeling it’s all getting too much for u (if u need any recommendations u can pm me)..
Stay strong and Good Luck 