I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....

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re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…

@PinkOrchids

So I have been on here - for some time moaning for some time - thank you for bearing with me.

I finally said no to this cousin back in Pakistan - and my parents are emotionally blackmailing me and are not willing to say no to them.

They want to take me with them - and will say no once they get there - I think this will pose for a difficult situation - Something I have already voiced about. I am already thinking of councilling as this is causing a lot of strain and emotional stress for me. They come out with comments like your old who will want marry you - I just turned 28. And very baby faced I might add. And that I am flying too high. They have also told me on numerous occassions to get out of their house.

I find this ridiculous. I don’t want to marry my cousin - I said NO. So a no is a no - why am I being emotionally blackmailed. I wish I could leave - but its easier said then done. Its not respectful. I could say yes to him and be a loveless/uncompatable marriage for them. But I do not think its fair. And when I said no they think its not fair.

If I was a guy and said no - there would be no fuss right now - why is there such double standards in our society?

You’re 28 which is rather late for a woman not to be married by desi standards but more importantly haven’t you found someone yourself?
I can see they’re concerned by the fact you’re not getting any younger but as you said there is no point getting into a loveless marriage.

The best people to ask about potentials could be friends who are already married? They might know someone or even your own siblings?