I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail....

[SoniaA]

re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…

@Omer259

Are you trying to help her out or destroy her life by giving her the advice of moving out of her house?. Come on, she does not want to start a war with her parents and end up cutting all contact with them. Pink Orchids, talk to your cousin directly before going to Pakistan and tell him that once you come to Pakistan, you want to meet him and find out if you have anything in common and If both of you find there is nothing in common, then you would jointly contact your/his parents and let them know that this marriage cannot work out. The guy would have enough respect to back out if he finds out that there is nothing in common.

She herself has stated she needs counciling, how can you live in a house were your parents are hell bent on destroying your life by marrying a buffoon from pakistan ? all because the buffoon is question is a cousin?

Every aspect of Islam has fairness with in it.

No you are not allowed to disrespect your parents, but to you ruin your marital life? It does not say anywhere if your parents are forcing you to marry someone that you must agree. Being a wife is a huge task in itself, what is a marriage where a wife/husband cannot respect one another, what is a marriage if you are not attracted to someone , how will you be happy… as sexual relations are a blessing.

For her own mental state taking a break from the constant war at home is my advice. How would you feel if your parents are at war with you in your home? would you even call that place home anymore?

how many times must one say NO before your parents get it??