Ok end of the day, Your divorced. It was YOUR choice not his. Even in Islam it says think about it long and hard. Its not a joke. You divorced him and its over. He will never come back to you. Why would he? You divorced him bcoz of his attitude. Now deal with it. He wont come back to you YOU divorced him. Seriously get some self respect. Its done now. Get over him, Sort your life out. And get a new hobby, Obviously marriage isnt for you at this moment in time. Gosh people go thru so much in marriage and they still stay together, And you divorced him bcoz of a attitude? Seriously IF it was such a issue then its gonna be a issue again, Only this time IF you two marry again which i highly doubt it, he will divorce you! He will use and abuse you if you ever go back to him. Now leave it and move on! Dont call him, Dont wait for anything! YOU left him now keep going!!
i agree u know. u should not have ben so rash. but now thinking about it all the time will only make u feel worse. forget the past. u can start your life again. just don't look at the past. start again. look at the future. i wish u all the best.
*is this the punishment i am getting from Allah for leaving my husband??that i am regretful??will i keep regretting all my life?? can i ever settle down again or not?can life ever be as happy as it used to be b4?how long will my punishment last?is this all i deserve?? *
sweetdoll.....the more you think about it, the more you will despair.
Think of it this way, maybe whatever happened is for the best. Maybe, only Allah knows, perhaps if you have gone ahead with the marriage, there might be something unpleasant waiting down the line. Maybe it was not meant to be and that there is someone special out there... waiting for you.... down the road.
I strongly suggest you to take a break, go spend some time in a different place. Try out new things..... get a breath of fresh air in your life.
*is this the punishment i am getting from Allah for leaving my husband??that i am regretful??will i keep regretting all my life?? can i ever settle down again or not?can life ever be as happy as it used to be b4?how long will my punishment last?is this all i deserve?? *
It's not a punishment. You need to change the ways of life.
At this point you do not have anyone special in your life and it's making you feel lonely. When you are lonely you would RATHER be with a companion who's attitude you could have "ignored".
So STOP being in the "lonely" atmosphere. Find a companion soon. Good luck.
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if u r a muslim, then talaaq is FINAL, u can't go back to him unless u marry someone and he, on his own free will, divorces u then u can go back to him
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Bull-crap!!!!
That was one of the rule Omer(ra) introduce as a ruler, not as a prophet.
Once talak is said, even 3 time, you have 3 months to contact back.
If you don't its done.
Even then you can go back WITH OUT NIKAHING/SLEEPING WITH AN OTHER MAN.
*is this the punishment i am getting from Allah for leaving my husband??that i am regretful??will i keep regretting all my life?? can i ever settle down again or not?can life ever be as happy as it used to be b4?how long will my punishment last?is this all i deserve?? *
sweetdoll, darling your only 20 years old. Same age as me. At 17 i was ready to get married. Thank God i didnt. Thats because at 17 i had nothing going on. So a rishta came thru and i said yes and it was going thru. But my gut feeling wasnt right. Now i thank God i didnt get married. And sometimes i think what if. But now i'm gonna start going to college again, get my life back in order. Find a new hobby. It hurts i understand, but you left him for a reason. Ofcourse your gonna feel lonely and regretful. But believe me it **WILL **pass and you will meet sum1 better when your 23-24. You can get married again and learn from your mistakes.
Keep yourself occupied, When you dont you will start thinking and feeling depressed again. Allah wrote this... He has surly wrote you sumthing better Inshallah. Allah doesnt give us things we cant handle.
Put your heart and faith into Allah, Cry to him and he WILL listen to you. The more sorry Allah see's you. The more he will help you. Allah is the most merciful!!
*is this the punishment i am getting from Allah for leaving my husband??that i am regretful??will i keep regretting all my life?? can i ever settle down again or not?can life ever be as happy as it used to be b4?how long will my punishment last?is this all i deserve?? *
This is not a punishment from Allah. Its a punishment from you. It will last as long as you want it to. Keep wallowing and you will feel like you are being punished. Admit you erred....learn something from it....move on with your life.
This is not a punishment from Allah. Its a punishment from you. It will last as long as you want it to. Keep wallowing and you will feel like you are being punished. Admit you erred....learn something from it....move on with your life.
well Sweet doll it depends on the actual situation.. if you left him out of your own stupidity then you have to face the consequences.. there's no ends, ifs or buts about it though.. Maybe you are guilty cause you know you were at fault? The only thing you can do at this point is to get back to him and see if he wants to be with you again - If not then you have to move on even if it's with all this remorse and self-disgust… but moving on will only get better if you ask him to forgive you as well as Allah's forgiveness.. by doing that you will find that peace eventually, otherwise it's like a vicious circle you will never get out of it and will remain circulating.
*is this the punishment i am getting from Allah for leaving my husband??that i am regretful??will i keep regretting all my life?? can i ever settle down again or not?can life ever be as happy as it used to be b4?how long will my punishment last?is this all i deserve?? *
I am sorry for your situation, just like to ask a question?
I your divorce is done by meeting all sharia procedures? Or you have taken this through some civil procedure?
I am not sure about Khula, but it is important to find out with religious scholars (do not ask here, as there is lot of variation in different fiqh, but you have not ask ulmas of fiqh you are practicing) if it was done in right procedure as well.
As it is may be possible that civil divorce is not recognizable then you might have a chance?
I seen your old post mentioning that someone divorced before Rukhsati, if this is your situation then i would change whole thing.
I am not religious scholar though, but to the best of my knowledge Halala thing on applies to someone who divorce after cohabiting. But your situation is diffract I believe there a good chance for u to marry him again.
But please check with some good mufti before proceeding.
I have spoken to a Mufti and according to him, that you are free to remarry him without any restriction and no Halala is required (only in case of Talaq without cohabitation)