I Regret....

[Reha]

@sweetdoll

^^ hey i got divorced after nikkah , i didnt have rukhsati…so no question of being pregnant or any related thing…

As far as going back to my husband after divorce is concerned tou i want to make this thing very clear that i have a complete and authentic information about this that i dont have to do HALALA …as in islam HALALA is done after three divorces …three times a women can marry the same person so islamically i can go back to him…i will provide the source to it very soon inshAllah..

but the answer that i want from u people is more related to culture…i mean should i go back to him?if yes,what should i do that i come to know whether he wants the same thing or not(me in his life)??..what should i do to attract him?:(..i miss him …would i lose respect if i go back???should i do this or just forget him now??

Yes, you will lose some respect in his family’s eyes when you go back because you have made yourself look very flakey. No one will completely trust you or your judgement. There will always be something in his heart that will prevent him from fully opening up to you and it wont be intentional…just human nature.

What you feel when you say you miss him might not be HIM, it might just be the idea of a husband in your life. Its nice to have someone in your life as your partner in crime but it has to be the right person and the right time.

@sweetdoll

can’t anyone tell me of some effective wazeefa or dua that he comes back to me?..

Please dont say stuff like this…do dua for whatever is in both of your best interests.

@sweetdoll

no i havent talked to my parents about it…and i cant even coz i took divorce just on my own..no one supported me for it..no one in my family..so if i get back to him,i dunno what wud happen…

i wud appreciate any dua in this context..if u people could tell me

No one supported you because they probably thought you were being immature and not giving him or the marriage a chance. Right now, the posters feel the same way.

@sweetdoll

there was no solid reason…wenever we talked we had a fight,he was very straightforward and aggressive..i thot we are not compatible for each other..i was very afraid and i took divorce…but now i miss him..i regret taking divorce…i wana go back to him..

These kind of things make divorcees look so bad, I dont even know what to say right now. Yes, I understand the communication problems lekin this was the wrong way to handle it.

A part of me wants you to learn from this and move on because the guy probably deserves a peaceful life and none of this headache from you. I feel like he will go through too much being married to you because he will have to literally raise you.

YOu have to realize you hurt him by divorcing him for no hard reasons. He was probably confused at first and now angry because again…he doesnt understand what he did to deserve this. Correcting this wont be as easy as you’re thinking.

@sweetdoll

he is a very mature,aggressive sort of person..if i tell him the whole situation ,do u think he wud accept me ..coz he was not willing to give me divorce..but at the end wen he signed the papers of divorce ,he was very angry and mad at me…i dun think contacting him straight away wud work:teary1:…tell me of sum way that he contacts me himself…

He wont contact you himself because YOU left HIM. As far as he knows, you dont want him in your life. If anyone will contact anyone, you will have to swallow your pride just like he did and contact him. You think it was easy for him to sign papers for a woman who was running away from him for no reason? How much insult do you think he bore?

This isnt a mind game. You cant pick people up and drop them when you feel like it. These kind of things actually hurt emotionally for a long time.

Im disappointed in this whole thing…divorce isnt a joke and marrying people isnt a joke. Forget yourself, you’re playing with someone else’s life here.