You know, the ones who focus on more superficial characteristics.
Growing up I always wanted to look nice, but my focus was always work for school, extracurriculars, chores around the house. I never went to salons to get my nails or hair done, never spent lots of money on clothes or jewelry. To this day I have a general aversion to name brands.
But in the past year my mother has been encouraging me to be more stereotypically “girly.” She wants me to focus more on looking pretty than on my career or education. That makes her sound awful, but it’s because she’s seen school, undergrad, grad school, work, etc take over my life and she knows I have a tendency toward unhealthy eating and sleeping habits when under pressure. She also sees her counterparts in Pakistan who stay at home and take care of their families and look and feel much younger and healthier than she herself does, after several years of balancing career and home life.
Anyway, I guess I’m wondering where you guys draw the line on taking care of yourself and being overly materialistic or superficial. When is pampering yourself healthy, and when is it irresponsible?
i used to be like that :) actually my mum points out i still am.. especially now that my cousins are here who are ALWAYS pampering themselves.. which i find a total waste of time
looking after urself, and being "girly" isnt really being superfical or materialistic.. it just means u can balance ur career/education with taking time out to make urself look nice
u dont have to wear $400+ soemthing brand named clothes or look like the MAC makeup chic, but if u look nice and clean.. then i think thats a good start :k:
my mum is always on my back about looknig “nice”.. so for her sake, i’ll sometimes wear lipstick and some pointy nice shoes with jeans.. thats enuff girliness for moi
you're right, sadzz. it's just hard because i still have that voice in my head saying that i'm being wasteful. i guess it just takes getting used to :D
Mystical, i went into Allana Hill today and have realised thats my taste in clothes… lekin!! the prices are uff toba!!! do u know any other shops here with similar stuff?
aww ta
They have sores on brunswick st and bridge rd, where you’ll get them much cheaper.
Cheeky, Bardots (if you look carefully,you’ll find good stuff similar to Alana’s), lt collins street just behind rmit, they have clothes shops with similar stuff..
yeah ive seen cheekee stuff, except they’ve got more jackets and things out right now.. bardot does have cute things.. their cardigans are very cute :k:
hmm i havent seen shops behind rmit.. i’ll check it out tonight if i get time or tomorrow.. thanks babe
hmm i think u shud take care of urself but that shudnt be ur number one priority bc of which u ignore other important thingz
look clean and neat and well dressed, take care of ur personal hygiene and dress nicely, but personally i dont like makeup, even lipstick...but keep ur skin well moisturised and clean, but dont spend 10 hours everyday putting this mask and that mask and pedicuring and manicuring and dolling urself with lipstick mascara ye wo and God knows what else
everyone has their own standards but just balance whatever u do within ur daily routine and as for spending money, dont be kanjoos but dont spend all ur salary on buying makeup products n clothes either
Yeah, I always want to look nice and all that. It's not that I don't care at all about how I look. It's just that, like you guys said, having the latest styles or most expensive jewelry has never been my priority. Maybe occasionally I'll splurge. But it's never my focus.
And Mystical, you don't sound like one of "those" girls. Besides, I guess part of the point of this thread is to say that being one of "those" girls is perhaps not as "bad" as I thought it was.
lol Muniya. Maybe it's something about an approaching marriage. It's definitely started since my mangni. It's all about making sure you're at your prettiest for the big day I guess. And all those new clothes and jewelry, going to parlors, etc.
And I admit, it is fun. Just afraid of getting carried away.
no you wont get carried away. Your jsut improving on the old you.. but the academic chick w/ substance to her is still there and no one drag her down … we all know that right?
a late congrats on teh mangini.. now i’ll be waiting for the hero’s pic in my inbox
Aishaaa – that’s true. I’m that way as well. I feel more confident when I know I look nice. But I think there’s a difference between looking nice and going all out.
I think its good to pamper yourself but with modesty, that does not mean spending $100 on a lip gloss that your dad or mom pays for. Spend what you can afford.
I remember how proud my parents were when they saw me on Eid morning in my Eid clothes, make-up, hair done. "Wah, wah....dthayko...meri bet."They wanted me to be the stereotypical Asian beauty, all rosy cheeked and feminine. I was usually a jeans and t-shirt tomboy. I think I'm still that way at heart. But after you get married and you're a bride, you start to think about your appearance and your husband's perception. Luckily my husband wants me to wear Lucky jeans, t-shirt and my pumas, so it all works out ok.
Although there are days when I like to doll myself up (most days actually). But I draw the line at not being materialistic or obsessive about it. Like I would never have plastic surgery, I don't HAVE to carry a Louis V bag, wear Manolas. I like to be very subtle, not scream labels and sparkle, skin, lipgloss, and dishevelled hair all aflutter. I guess being one of 'those girls' is a subjective thing. Everyone has their own idea of what it means. Jocelyn Wildenstein...yes, nobody wants to be that. But unfortunately many young girls want to be Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan without knowing who they really are, beyond the image.
i love getting dolled up and pretty. My whole beauty routine takes about a half hour: showering, moisturizing, eyelinering, eyeshadowing, mascaraing, vaselining the lips, lip glossing, etc. Don't spend any time on my hair , since i wearhijab :D
