Ok, recently I posted about a marriage issue but really the entire situation at home is too bad.
My parents had the biggest fight ever today, my dad swore about my mums family and about her dead parents and called her a kutti ki bachi and the worst things you can imagine. He has done that before. He tortures by mum but makes it seem like he tortures us. I was cooking food and he made me go and clean his shoes in such a bad manner that I just had to cry. I feel like a slave more than a daughter.
He then told me that if I chose to listen to my mum about anything then he would sever all contact with me. He then asked me whether I wanted our other house or not ( there so that freshie cousins can come and live in it after our marriages), I said no I don’t need it ( the deeds are in my name) and he said fine, then we will sell it and also sell the house we live in.
He then said that I should stay at home and cook food and learn to do kitchen stuff and not go out all the time (I’m not allowed out anywhere) and he said or I can take all my sisters and go and take their benefits and support them with a stupid office job.
My mums brother rang yesterday (second time ever) and my mum was talking to him and my dad snatched the phone and had a massive go at my mamoo and my mum about how they are filling our ears and not letting my dad do his duty. He then effectively made my mamoo cry on the phone and obviously my mum.
My mum also told me that my dad wants me to marry one of my cousins who was already married, has a son and was taken to court over sexual abuse case against his wife. He is 38. My dad said that if I don’t listen to him, I will always fall to my knees and never will I get anywhere. He calls my mum a ***** and calls her parents and her family *****es and thinks that my mum is filling our ears and turning us against out father. The truth is his actions already do that.
I talked to my parents about moving out, and today even my dad said to my mum to get lost and try and get a house if we want ( we will never get anywhere in the world if we don’t listen to him). I tried to send my sisters out of the room while the fight was happening but my dad made them sit down again.
I wanted to storm out of there at that moment with my mum and siblings but where would we have gone, the council offices are all closed at this time. I feel so lost, finally I am not really interested in anything anymore. Life seems dull and similar day in and day out. Each time I think this is the worst row ever, I get proved wrong. My dad hasn’t gone to tarawee today so can’t even relax.
My mum keeps saying the way your first wife went with her jawaan children, you are just making us majboor of doing the same thing and my dad is like go. He shouts and screams at us all the time and then blames mum for the fact that she has kept us scared all the time. Ya allah, I don’t know how much more sabar I can do. Its just getting beyond bearable. I just want to go somewhere far away.
when my mums close cousin brother died a few months a go, who was 22…instead of consoling my mum..my dad cut of internet access and the landline and accused my mum of being un faithful to him and he swore at the death of the cousin, he said deaths happen all the time, get over it …whats so special about this one?