let mil pick something she likes, make her happy. its her sons mehndi. ur her bahu.
let her hsow the world that you are so caring and obedient, that you wore what she wanted.
it is too ealry in your relationship to start crossing paths with your mil. also do not tell your husband aobut his either. they will rmeember these things.
who cares if one day you owre somthing she liked insteade of what you liked. you still have 2 other days. look at the big picture,m what is important. that you are getting marreid. that his family is accepting you and giving you their son. think how lucky you are. think happy thoughts.
i don<t think she<ll pick something that makes you look bad on purpose, she will want to make her bahu look gorgeous. she has some armaan too. don<t diagree with her, there are lots of of those that will come up. do what she wants, she will start to love you even more.
She shouldn't have to show the world how 'obedient' she is, when will we stop this bizarre obsession with 'what will people think?' There should be give and take on both sides, not DIL just blindly having to put up with situations she isn't happy with.
They are lucky getting a new DIL as well. I take ur point about not making a big deal about everything but really if she is the one wearing it if she doesn't like it she shouldn't have to.
Do u hate it that much that u risk offending them? These things are always remembered later....clothes dont mean much..its how u wear them and how u r that make clothes look good....I completely understand how you feel...but i really think its not worth offending them....if they dont mind, then fair enuff...but if they do mind then u risk hearing that thaana 4 the rest of ur life.....just wear it :) Good luck!
TabuB ur advice is exactly the advice my family's been giving me.
My fam isn't forcing me but lecturing me and putting me on a guilt trip. Im just gonna wear it and call it a day. Even though i'll look like a big poofy green and orange indian flag. I just hope my wedding outfit is gorgeous insha'Allah!
i didn't like my mehndi jora either. it was very simple and just bleh. in fact, my MIL had got the exact same one made for my SIL to wear to our mehndi..and there was no way we we're going to be twins!! i had another outfit i got made from my trip to pakistan that i really liked and simply told my MIL that i was going to wear her outfit on my mayoun and my outfit on the mehndi since it was more fancy and not so appropriate for the mayoun. she was completely okay with it and alhamdulillah it worked out great! plus, my SIL wore her matching outfit to our mehndi...and i'm soooooo glad i didn't :)
ok chamakchallo... lookin at it- immediately i was like huh? But its got no kaam done on it (was that ur idea or theres?). its a bit simple and wheres the yellow?
it's not that bad... but it doesnt look like a mehndi jora... but if u gotta have to wear it then do it properly- I think with the right makeup- jewellery and accessories- it could look ok.
If u really dont like it... mention that u wanted yellow cos it was part of ur theme and this could be worn after the wedding at a dinner party, etc. Like ive said before its ur mehndi...
The jora I got was like an explosion of colours (I kid u not)- and it was ready made. I'll get another one and wear hers after the wedding or tell mil to give it to someone else
If you dont want to wear it, I do think its best to be honest with them, but in a gentle way so you dont hurt their feelings. Just tell them that the colours are not what you had your heart set on to wear for the mehndi, but thank you for the outfit, you will keep it for another time, and that you have found something else to wear for the mehndi...something like that. Inshallah they will understand and not make a huge deal out of it. Dont lie or make up another excuse, as if the truth gets out afterwards it will only hurt them more
just get it fitted. you can even do it by the machine yourself, or get soem aunty to tighten it for you so it will not look loose. its cute. not bad, with right makeup and jewellery youll look nice. dont vorry:)
I actually dont think its bad at all! I actually like it Anyhow, i like prototype’s idea about telling them its too formal to be worn and then given to the servant so you are going to wear the one you are going to make.
you can put some fancy gota or lace at the neckline,over the belt,sleeves,ghair and dupatta borders to make it look fancier..when is your wedding?i can send you lace/gota and i am sure your mom or any lady at home can put it on the outfit by simple handwork.
Anyhow, i like prototype’s idea about telling them its too formal to be worn and then given to the servant so you are going to wear the one you are going to make.