My mehndi outfit is from my in-laws and I don’t like it at all. I’m not even going to bother to post a pic up because I already know i don’t like it and nothing will change my opinion about that. And my mehndi is in august and the material is so thick and heavy and poofy. And im not a fan of the colors either. It’s nicely made but it’s just not my taste.
My question is, am i really stuck with wearing it? Can anyone give me a really good excuse to tell my in-law’s why I decided not to wear it without hurting their feelings?
tell them that you wanted to wear a peshwaas style (or if it is a peshwaas, then tell them you really wanted to wear a churidaar) as it's really in, and that you wanted to save this outfit to wear on a bigger occasion, since you wanted to go with a "simpler" look on the mehendi?
give them importance by saying it's one of the heavier outfits and you rather save it for after the wedding events...?
I dnt like the mendhi outfit my inlaws gave me- but they really dont really mind if I dont wear it. I'll go pakistan get another outfit and say I didnt like the first one.
Had to do the same thing for my other outfits too. Well if ur to-be- inlaws dont mind then just tell them, mine dont and get something u like- after all its ur big day and it only comes around once...
It's a peshwaas...i thought all peshwaas had churidaar's with it. At least this one does. And it's quite simple. It's really thick jamaavar material with just a few sequins here and there.
And my in law's told me all the effort they put into buying this...almost as if to show me they put a lot of love in this outfit. I do feel bad. My in law's are really sweet masha'Allah. But I wish they had asked my opinion before they ordered it. My family thinks i need to suck it up and just wear it.
starcity ur so lucky to just be able to be so stright up with ur in laws :)
And my in law's told me all the effort they put into buying this...almost as if to show me they put a lot of love in this outfit. I do feel bad. My in law's are really sweet masha'Allah. But I wish they had asked my opinion before they ordered it. My family thinks i need to suck it up and just wear it.
starcity ur so lucky to just be able to be so stright up with ur in laws :)
Cant u modify it in anyway? to make it look better?
I sorta speak my mind and they gt that and infact its usually my family who tell them if it looks really bad.
I never understood these rituals of gettin the girls mehndi jora- the girls gonna wear it, her one day - she shud get wat she likes- sigh after all theres some amazin jora's in pakistan and here...
If you havn't talked to your MIL, you should just tell her, that its too heavy for you to wear in the summer. Be nice and be thankfull towards her. Because at the end of the day its your mehndi and your the one who has to rock it! Unless if you do think you can rock it, then its a different story. If not, just get your own dress made. Just remember its not the end of the world if you don't wear their dress, there are already more then enough things to worry about in the days before the wedding, and one of them should not be that my dress is ugly!!
Tell them straight up you don't like it and want to wear something else. If they didn't care enough to get you something that you would like, then you shouldn't care so much abt hurting their feelings. I don't believe in staying quiet just out of respect b/c YOU will be the one waering the crappy jora.
And hunny, no MIL/SIL will say "i just picked this crap up from anywhere" they will gas it up to be like the next HSY/Karma jora.
My mehndi outfit is from my in-laws and I don't like it at all. I'm not even going to bother to post a pic up because I already know i don't like it and nothing will change my opinion about that. And my mehndi is in august and the material is so thick and heavy and poofy. And im not a fan of the colors either. It's nicely made but it's just not my taste.
My question is, am i really stuck with wearing it? Can anyone give me a really good excuse to tell my in-law's why I decided not to wear it without hurting their feelings?
I know exactly how you feel. I had the same dilemna with my valima joda. First of all, did they even ask you if you had anything in mind? I don't like it when the in laws ASSUME we will just wear whatever they bring. I mean I don't want to sound selfish or ungrateful but it is OUR day and it only happens once in a lifetime so why not be happy/satisfied?
I told my husband I couldn't wear the valima joda. I am very picky when it comes to clothes and my personal style so no way was I bending backwards for anyone. My in laws are very sweet mA as well but they got over it and iA so will yours. Can you talk to your hubby-to-be? Can he do something for you?
just tell them u like that out fit...but u have something else in your mind to wear on your mehandi day...and tell them u will wear this outfit after wedding on some dinner party...im sure they wont mind..coz you are not going to throw that out fit in garbage..u will definatly wear someday..if they are good/sweet people they will understand your situation..TRY to talk with them...
my biggest prob with the outfit is that the material is thick and the color is orange. I hate orange. blah. I'll try to post a pic, but i can't yet, i don't have 25 posts.
my biggest prob with the outfit is that the material is thick and the color is orange. I hate orange. blah. I'll try to post a pic, but i can't yet, i don't have 25 posts.
you don't like orange? i think it's such a great mehendi color! i'm tired of girls wearing green, and yellow is great and all, but orange really looks good on our skin (any shade of brown). but, you should definitely wear what you want to wear. i'm sure they'll understand though. even if they went through a lot of work, i'm sure they'd want you to be happy and feel pretty in whatever you're wearing.
oh, and regarding peshwaas...i've seen a bunch of people wearing cropped pants with them? i think churidaar's make them more traditional (which i prefer) but cropped pants seem to be in too?
here's an excellent excuse which worked for me:
I didnt like my mehndi jora too and I told them that it's a ritual in our family that mehndi ka jora dobarah nahin pehentay and kaam wali ko daitay hain(I didnt make it up-it's true..I am sure some of you might do that too)and I told them their jora was too good to be given off to a servant.so I am making a less expensive one which i'd give away later :D and it worked for me(and my sister later) ;)
let mil pick something she likes, make her happy. its her sons mehndi. ur her bahu.
let her hsow the world that you are so caring and obedient, that you wore what she wanted.
it is too ealry in your relationship to start crossing paths with your mil. also do not tell your husband aobut his either. they will rmeember these things.
who cares if one day you owre somthing she liked insteade of what you liked. you still have 2 other days. look at the big picture,m what is important. that you are getting marreid. that his family is accepting you and giving you their son. think how lucky you are. think happy thoughts.
i don<t think she<ll pick something that makes you look bad on purpose, she will want to make her bahu look gorgeous. she has some armaan too. don<t diagree with her, there are lots of of those that will come up. do what she wants, she will start to love you even more.
here's an excellent excuse which worked for me:
I didnt like my mehndi jora too and I told them that it's a ritual in our family that mehndi ka jora dobarah nahin pehentay and kaam wali ko daitay hain(I didnt make it up-it's true..I am sure some of you might do that too)and I told them their jora was too good to be given off to a servant.so I am making a less expensive one which i'd give away later :D and it worked for me(and my sister later) ;)
same here...hamare haan bhi mehandi and mayoon ka jora kisi ko bhi de dete hain cousin ya phir choti sister ko...