I really don't want to offend them...they're really sweet. I haven't even told my hubby about it.
Although I might. I'm getting all my outfits by next week iA and I ordered a gharara for my dholki. It's a light green one with red gota kaam. If I like that one maybe I can suggest that I wear that on my mehndi since it's fancier and heavier and ask if they would be ok if I wear it on my mayoon. That wouldn't really be hurting their feelings would it?
It does look a lot better when I wear it but still not something I would have picked out for myself. I tried to put the dupatta in a way that the green part is mostly hidden and then it looks ok.
I say speak up and ask them if it's ok if you wear the heavier outfit you ordered. Tell them the outfit they got is too light and you won't look like a bride-to-be. Love how everyone is telling you to compromise and that it's not a big deal. I respect that but don't agree. This day only comes once - some in laws have a habit of taking things to heart - if not this they will come up with something else to talk about. I don't think ASKING them if you could wear something else to YOUR FUNCTION is being rude.
Sorry but not feeling the peshwaas. If not worn according to your body type, the wrong type of peshwaas will make you look even bigger. If nothing else works, go to Oak Tree and switch up the dupatta! ;)