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i truely want this to be a joke. You can think of me as a troll. But for one minute please say a dua for me i woulbe very greatful
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If he is gay - which sounds like the case - you need to leave.
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Seriously, he told you to stop your education? why?
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naaaa … let her stay .. i wanna see some gay/female threads in life1.. we need some new blood mate
what ya say 
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coz he is gay .. 
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i know this sounds stupid but without him i feel i have no future as he was meant to be my future. I dont know what i will do now i feel i have nothing left.
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Seriously, he told you to stop your education? why?
WOAH! When did he do that? I gotta go back and read her post again.
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^ wouldnt work currently i earn more than he does and have more savings
^Maybe that's why he doesn't want you to go to grad school? So you don't earn even more than you do now?
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I wanted to go to grad school to study something very demanding and he thought it would not be best as he is in the same field.
^ wouldnt work currently i earn more than he does and have more savings
so he was afraid that if you continued your education, you would end up earning even more money than you already do, a lot more than him? is that really the reason, that just seems hard to believe
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Training would have meant we would have a long distance relationship for min 2 years if i did not get placed in area of my choice.
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Rainday, he was your fiance, as much as these guys are going to pretend they wouldn't ever snoop, they would too. You don't need to explain why you did it, it's human nature to investigate when something seems fishy, anyway.. I'm sure the thought of someone you loved, someone you planned on spending your life with, turning out to be gay is heart wrenching. I'm sure him and his family are nice people, and obviously his parent's don't know about his sexuality. I'm sure you feel sorry for him, that he has to keep this secret all to himself, it must be difficult. I don't think you should have told your parents. I think you should have spoke to him about it first, for all you know he could be bisexual, not necessarily gay. (not sure if you would be okay with a bisexual husband?) You said the emails were old also... your sexuality can evolve over time, maybe he was bi, and isn't anymore? or maybe he was just experimenting? I don't know if you'd be okay with something like that or would be able to overlook it, if you know for a fact that you cannot it's best to end the relationship but if I were you I would keep this discovery between my fiance and myself..and agree to end the relationship mutually and tell the parents some other reason for ending it. It'd be terrible if his secret got exposed to his family and was out in the open.. I can't imagine what he'd go through.
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i know this sounds stupid but without him i feel i have no future as he was meant to be my future. I dont know what i will do now i feel i have nothing left.
I see him in you future as mamoon of your future kids, not as father of your kids.
On a serious note , I know of some male cousins of mine who used to crank call other men pretending to be girls and in love with them. I hope he was messing around with them. He needs to explain this all to you and your family and his family . If he comes out of the closet that is good , if not you could tell if he was lying about his sexuality when you bring this skeleton out of the closet and on the breakfast table.
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currently i earn more but when he completes his training he will earn more than me and it will take me 7years to match his. His family wanted me to study further and supported me. Before i met him i had a lot of rishta rejections because of my future career choice. I compromised with him because you can never have what you truly want in life he was directing me towards other fields just some which would take less time but i did not have my heart set in them.
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You should keep any little boys that you end up having…away from Tharki Mamoo. :no:
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I feel angry at the fact that there where subtle signs in maybe his personality and i overlooked. I just want to see what he says. He is coming for breakfast in about 5 hours i dont want to be a train wreck in front of him. How do i face him? what do i say?
what were the subtle signs of his gayness which you said you overlooked?
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Yup its not your fault at all. The whole world conspires against you.
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Rainday, he was your fiance, as much as these guys are going to pretend they wouldn't ever snoop, they would too. You don't need to explain why you did it, it's human nature to investigate when something seems fishy, anyway.. I'm sure the thought of someone you loved, someone you planned on spending your life with, turning out to be gay is heart wrenching. I'm sure him and his family are nice people, and obviously his parent's don't know about his sexuality. I'm sure you feel sorry for him, that he has to keep this secret all to himself, it must be difficult. I don't think you should have told your parents. I think you should have spoke to him about it first, for all you know he could be bisexual, not necessarily gay. (not sure if you would be okay with a bisexual husband?) You said the emails were old also... your sexuality can evolve over time, maybe he was bi, and isn't anymore? or maybe he was just experimenting? I don't know if you'd be okay with something like that or would be able to overlook it, if you know for a fact that you cannot it's best to end the relationship but if I were you I would keep this discovery between my fiance and myself..and agree to end the relationship mutually and tell the parents some other reason for ending it. It'd be terrible if his secret got exposed to his family and was out in the open.. I can't imagine what he'd go through.
Me and my parents have agreed to keep it a secret and not tell his family if he sas he is gay, we are going to make excuses for both of us.I just dont want him to do this to another girl. The things people said tome when i got engaged now sound true. If he was straight i am sure he could do better than me as a potential wife, he could truly marry anyone all the aunties would gather around if they saw his CV and education.
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^That's what I was wondering as well.
Rainy, if this isn't some prank he's playing.......you need to leave him.
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hahhahaa
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you can never have what you truly want in life.
Whoever told you that should be given the dream crusher award. You should never give up your dreams without a fight. Whoever tells you to give up your dream because it is too difficult is worth a kick in the butt.