I dont know how to begin this topic. I have been engaged to my fiance for about 8 months. Our engagement was through family (his family is well known to my family). My fiance wanted me to put some stuff onto his laptop and me being nosey i went through his stuff. What i found was really shocking my hands are shaking while i write this. From all that i saw on his laptop i have found out that my fiancé is attracted to men and is in a relationship with about two men which is sexual. He has various listings on websites and they either say he is bisexual or gay. I have read his emails ad some of them are really grotesque. What hurt the most was his decelerations of love for these people. I have told my parents and am waiting for him to return to my house in the morning. I dont know what to do i feel sick and that there is no hope i have made such big sacrifices for him (not continuing my education). Please help and give me sincere advice because i thought he truly loved me and i loved him. Also please pray for me so that i can face this difficult time.
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I woudln't be surprised if this was just a practical joke from his end.
Seriously, not continue your education??
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I dont know how to begin this topic. I have been engaged to my fiance for about 8 months. Our engagement was through family (his family is well known to my family). My fiance wanted me to put some stuff onto his laptop and me being nosey i went through his stuff. What i found was really shocking my hands are shaking while i write this. From all that i saw on his laptop i have found out that my fiancé is attracted to men and is in a relationship with about two men which is sexual. He has various listings on websites and they either say he is bisexual or gay. I have read his emails ad some of them are really grotesque. What hurt the most was his decelerations of love for these people. I have told my parents and am waiting for him to return to my house in the morning. I dont know what to do i feel sick and that there is no hope i have made such big sacrifices for him (not continuing my education). Please help and give me sincere advice because i thought he truly loved me and i loved him. Also please pray for me so that i can face this difficult time.
Well if he is gay, nothing much you can do. You should thank God, you figure it out before wedding night.
Good Luck.
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Is he just messing with you?
If he really is gay......wouldn't he more careful by not allowing you access to his email? The carelessness surprises me.
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I would tend to agree with Sara , either he played a joke on you or , he is playing jokes with those men. Or he could not live with it all and wanted you to find out and be over with it. Who knows , only he can provide and explanation.
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The question I have is why were you being nosy? Women. Sheesh. Also he is definitely gay. And a freak. Your parents are bad parents for doing this to you. Your husband is bad for doing this too you. His parents are bad for having a son like him. Everybody is to blame but you.
Did I miss anything?
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there were never any clues to him being a homosexual before this incident when you searched his laptop?
how far back do these emails filled with declarations of love to his gay lovers go?
hope you decide to finish your deg though no matter what the outcome of this situation, why would he ask you to give up something like that...odd
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The question I have is why were you being nosy? Women. Sheesh. Also he is definitely gay. And a freak. Your parents are bad parents for doing this to you. Your husband is bad for doing this too you. His parents are bad for having a son like him. Everybody is to blame but you.
Did I miss anything?
LOL , no you pretty much nailed it all down to the teeth. :)
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Well if he is gay, nothing much you can do. You should thank God, you figure it out before wedding night.
Good Luck.
wow a sensible reply from firenze, i agree
imagine being married to somebody that's gay, that seems like a nightmare so be thankful you found out now
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according to a study, women felt more emotional attachment to gays - what can be worst, the gays have same stuff as guys do, they just don’t know how to use them.
do you like gays? yes.. i knew that :k:
yeh w/e 
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Wow, that's extremely disturbing... talk to him about it calmly and rationally, even though he doesn't deserve it. If you're gay, why the heck are you marrying a girl?! planning on ruining her life? confirm it first, although it may be difficult then break the engagement.
Firenze's right, look on the bright side, you found out before you got married.
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Is he just messing with you?
If he really is gay......wouldn't he more careful by not allowing you access to his email? The carelessness surprises me.
OMG!! it's you hug
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I was being nosey because he told me he did not go clubbing near new years time. I saw pictures on his facebook which proved otherwise. So i wanted to see when the pics where taken. He saved all his passwords in firefox and the devil inside me wanted to look (really it was to check out some of his suspicious friends). I came across messages between him and a guy they are about 2 years old to the present. Where he was telling him about his love for him. I truly believe this is my fault. I just feel that the situation i difficult but i feel sorry for him. He has had to hide his sexuality. I just want him to tell me its not true, though some of his emails are more than 3 years old with the other person he is involved in. I just dont want to hurt his family (they are genuinely nice people and his parents are awesome) or mine. I just dont know what to say to him we planned out our future like where we would live, house, pets, children. I wish i saw the signs before. I suppose when the rishta got accepted i felt wow he is really sweet, caring ad has a lovely personality everythin you would wish for in a guy. i thought i would spend the rest of my life with him. I feel angry at the fact that there where subtle signs in maybe his personality and i overlooked. I just want to see what he says. He is coming for breakfast in about 5 hours i dont want to be a train wreck in front of him.
How do i face him? what do i say?
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The question I have is why were you being nosy? Women. Sheesh. Also he is definitely gay. And a freak. Your parents are bad parents for doing this to you. Your husband is bad for doing this too you. His parents are bad for having a son like him. Everybody is to blame but you.
Did I miss anything?
no you missed nothing this is all my fault for being a fool. Its just that i really love him and have never felt like this for anyone before. Iam scared that if he says he isnt gay i will believe him because i love him and the evidence says otherwise
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there were never any clues to him being a homosexual before this incident when you searched his laptop? how far back do these emails filled with declarations of love to his gay lovers go?
hope you decide to finish your deg though no matter what the outcome of this situation, why would he ask you to give up something like that...odd
I wanted to go to grad school to study something very demanding and he thought it would not be best as he is in the same field.
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Ya know what would really really suck?
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If he was just messing around with you…and never expected you to get upset to the point of telling ur parents.
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If he truly is gay…and then tells your parents that he was just messing with you…and then you believe him cuz you love him so much.
:no:
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What you do is this: Honey you are gay. I understand. Marry me and divorce me so I get all your wealth and stuff.
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^ wouldnt work currently i earn more than he does and have more savings
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is someone here willing to read the emails and tell me iam overreacting preferably a male (i dont know what you guys write in emails) and i and i can pm them
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Uh…the gayness would be the more pressing concern…more so than figuring out the aftermath of a divorce…(especially when the wedding hasn’t even taken place yet).
The fact you even answered the question of the troll (more like the flippant ogre ) above u…makes me question if you might not be a troll yourself? 