Re: I need help urgently
Rainday, he was your fiance, as much as these guys are going to pretend they wouldn’t ever snoop, they would too. You don’t need to explain why you did it, it’s human nature to investigate when something seems fishy, anyway.. I’m sure the thought of someone you loved, someone you planned on spending your life with, turning out to be gay is heart wrenching. I’m sure him and his family are nice people, and obviously his parent’s don’t know about his sexuality. I’m sure you feel sorry for him, that he has to keep this secret all to himself, it must be difficult. I don’t think you should have told your parents. I think you should have spoke to him about it first, for all you know he could be bisexual, not necessarily gay. (not sure if you would be okay with a bisexual husband?) You said the emails were old also… your sexuality can evolve over time, maybe he was bi, and isn’t anymore? or maybe he was just experimenting? I don’t know if you’d be okay with something like that or would be able to overlook it, if you know for a fact that you cannot it’s best to end the relationship but if I were you I would keep this discovery between my fiance and myself..and agree to end the relationship mutually and tell the parents some other reason for ending it. It’d be terrible if his secret got exposed to his family and was out in the open.. I can’t imagine what he’d go through.
Me and my parents have agreed to keep it a secret and not tell his family if he sas he is gay, we are going to make excuses for both of us.I just dont want him to do this to another girl. The things people said tome when i got engaged now sound true. If he was straight i am sure he could do better than me as a potential wife, he could truly marry anyone all the aunties would gather around if they saw his CV and education.