Re: I need a reality check.
Cattie btw there is a diff between clubbing too. you have the ppl who go there, drink, hook up, bang bang etc, others who just go to meet people or hang with friends, may or may not drink based in theri beliefs and are not into picking people at clubs.
its really not much different than going to a friends place for a party..the comparison is that instead of hosting a dinner and hanging out at your place, ppl eat out and then hang out at some place where they can just hang out, bar, cafe, club whatever..
in most cases it is more of a social scene, a place where you meet people you knwo already and new people (many times through your friends)...
let me give you an example from my own experience, I had friends in diff unis and who lived all over the city, in the usual 3-4 places we hung out at. I may go with a handful of guys and girls but run into others that i know .. it dd not have to be a club but restaurants were not really conducive to it, they did not want you to hang out for ever.
and at these bars/pubc/clubs.. people do their own thing, those who want to dance do that, some may shoot pool, others are hovering at the bar.
teh term club or bar has many negative connotations, but for many many people it is really not much different than a social club or country club, like gymkhana type thing in Karachi..just a place to hang out.