i m extremly sad and dejected

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Man I hate moderators.

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Same here. :(

Timepass - March 2013
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sara and mmaki dua i hope you both responsible mod.s recieved important mesages i sent to you

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I think someone needs to talk to the guy directly BUT...please dont make it look like your Bhabi is talking about her husband behind his back. That is literally poison for a marriage...knowing your partner is bad-mouthing you.

Suhaina, there are two possibilities here:

A - He is really into this wild lifestyle and is living out his single days to their max. He is not too concerned with what wifey says because she is in Pak and doesnt understand. He confides in her (but why?) and tells her these things so she can be used to them by the time she comes there. In other words, he wants an open marriage where he can do as he pleases and she just lets him be.

B - Since the engagement, he and wifey have grown apart and he has now fallen in love with another woman. He is telling her all this so she can get upset and leave him on her own. He wont have to do any of the dirty work and then he can do what he pleases. Why else would you tell your partner all these horrible things? It doesnt make any sense to me that he is telling his wife about falling in love with another girl...no sense.

Regardless, he has to answer for all this. Approach the matter gently and carefully. You dont want to cause a bigger rift between husband and wife.

~~~Missing Someone~~~
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Just out of curosity-

Do u girls find this type of promiscuous/social guy more cool/attractive

as opposed to the shy/reserved type?

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I havent seen one woman say that the guy was cool or more attractive. I cant imagine anyone liking a guy who dissrespects his wife by telling her that he is in love with another gal.

And we all know you are desperate for a ristha Amir but please for God sake dont start acting like a jerk in order to entice women!

Timepass - March 2013
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You are spot-on, WH ! Thumbs-up :)

Timepass - March 2013
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I meant it in the respect of what activites the guy is in. (He disrespects his fiance cos he doesnt like her which doesnt make him a genrelly disrespectful person.)

I asked that as those kinda guys are more sociable.
And i was told that gals like guys who wield social powwwer

%between%

Pakistan v South Africa - 2nd ODI - Mar 15, 2013
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I didnt receive any :hmmm:

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i asked my bhabhi if she wana breake this relation then i can help her i m a girl aswell .i can understand my bhabhi feelings but she said no to me because she loves him just annoyed with his harkatein.why he adopted this culture this much we both have no idea.may there is no one to stop him and tell him this is not right.or may b his freinds has this knd a life style so he adopted this i jsut dont know

i talked to her and she told me he didnt tell her all at once.when normally ppl talk diferent thing so batao baton main yhe batain bhi hogayii.
she told me he said he is not a pakka sharabi but he drinks occasinaly with freinds.he eats mc donald and other brands he likes japenise mmexican cusines which are usually amde jhatka meat so there fore its haram .

about girl she said i aked him about her and he told her that i like u thats why i marry u and didnt marry to that british girl.

i dont think he tells her to get rid of her.may b he told this to her.he was telling his life style to my bhabhi telling these things so she can be used to them by the time she comes there that he has this kind a life style and she wil have to go iwth him in parties whr ppl drink dance etc....

i posted this thread to get advices how we can bring him back to the track and make him understand that what ever he is doing is wrong.and some things can b continued but in limits...

she just want him to b back to the track as amuslim and as bleongs to a good family.
i know he is a nice guy just got spolied in these years..i knwo he can get better if soem one force him..talk to him.he offers pray.he is not that bad i guess i m not syaing all this because he is my brother....

Muqa Bro k Dil ki Awaz...........ChiRya k liya
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Wasey u too could be the lucky one!

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by the way why are you looking for a rishta here?dont u have any girl in your relatives,neighbour,office,school …surroundings..

ask your mom she will get u a one rishta…

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the answer to this very sensible question is given in the bio-data thread

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what ever not intrested in it anyway

Timepass - March 2013
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The only thing left to say is good luck to your Bhabi and I pray that she finds happiness with your brother!

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Well suhaina! Very sad to know about your brother that he has changed to that type of person. Infact it was your own fault that you let him stay there in other countries for job without having engaged. You also must have to clearly stated by him that either he like this rishta or not at the time of rishta and engagement. Becoz specially when you send your son or your brother to western countries then you must also have had to arrange any person who looks after his activities there becoz now most of people go there abroad in these countries both because of mames and wealth. And if you not have a check on anyone then definitely the result would be like this.

And the people who say these countries as champions of human rights must also see the real face of these countries. Before sending him, you all must have had to keep it in mind the social system of there and of Pakistan and cultural differences and whenever you live in one society then definitely your surroundings will affect largely on your personality also as it did in case of your brother here. And the western people already want to change muslims in this way in order to demolish their internal religious mind in which they had been successful in your bro’s case

Well! In my opinion if your bro does’nt answer to your and his wife’s advices then there is only one way to make him come back which is that do something by which he himself is pressurized to come back to Pakistan finally instead of being in that society. Here you must use political mind, first you identify that person whom he likes most in his life and then tell him falsely by making a drama that he/she is in hospital in serious condition or has died or make any drama like that by which he must be forced to come back to Pakistan from that corrupt society full of sexual lust. Then when he comes back to Pakistan then don’t let him go again to abroad. In my opinion you have only this option left or you and your parents and his parents must also pressurize him with anger and urge him to come back to Pakistan. Otherwise, nothing is left so far for you to do as you already explained all the situation. At least you must have had put on a check on him when sending him abroad or must have had engaged him before going abroad. Now this is becoming more difficult for you as your bro is also marrying a briti girl also

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THANK YOU for knocking some sense into this thread.

Noone in their right mind would tell a girl about their evil shananigans. Its pretty obvious that the guy is pretty 'straight', and just doesnt like the girl...and he doesnt want to be the one to break it off..and is trying to repel the girl by saying all this stuff, so that she herself will break it off.

Wake up Suhaina!

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Watching too many D-list bollywood movies eh?

What' ll u throw on the person above u