Re: i m extremly sad and dejected
Well suhaina! Very sad to know about your brother that he has changed to that type of person. Infact it was your own fault that you let him stay there in other countries for job without having engaged. You also must have to clearly stated by him that either he like this rishta or not at the time of rishta and engagement. Becoz specially when you send your son or your brother to western countries then you must also have had to arrange any person who looks after his activities there becoz now most of people go there abroad in these countries both because of mames and wealth. And if you not have a check on anyone then definitely the result would be like this.
And the people who say these countries as champions of human rights must also see the real face of these countries. Before sending him, you all must have had to keep it in mind the social system of there and of Pakistan and cultural differences and whenever you live in one society then definitely your surroundings will affect largely on your personality also as it did in case of your brother here. And the western people already want to change muslims in this way in order to demolish their internal religious mind in which they had been successful in your bro’s case
Well! In my opinion if your bro does’nt answer to your and his wife’s advices then there is only one way to make him come back which is that do something by which he himself is pressurized to come back to Pakistan finally instead of being in that society. Here you must use political mind, first you identify that person whom he likes most in his life and then tell him falsely by making a drama that he/she is in hospital in serious condition or has died or make any drama like that by which he must be forced to come back to Pakistan from that corrupt society full of sexual lust. Then when he comes back to Pakistan then don’t let him go again to abroad. In my opinion you have only this option left or you and your parents and his parents must also pressurize him with anger and urge him to come back to Pakistan. Otherwise, nothing is left so far for you to do as you already explained all the situation. At least you must have had put on a check on him when sending him abroad or must have had engaged him before going abroad. Now this is becoming more difficult for you as your bro is also marrying a briti girl also