Re: i m extremly sad and dejected
I think someone needs to talk to the guy directly BUT...please dont make it look like your Bhabi is talking about her husband behind his back. That is literally poison for a marriage...knowing your partner is bad-mouthing you.
Suhaina, there are two possibilities here:
A - He is really into this wild lifestyle and is living out his single days to their max. He is not too concerned with what wifey says because she is in Pak and doesnt understand. He confides in her (but why?) and tells her these things so she can be used to them by the time she comes there. In other words, he wants an open marriage where he can do as he pleases and she just lets him be.
B - Since the engagement, he and wifey have grown apart and he has now fallen in love with another woman. He is telling her all this so she can get upset and leave him on her own. He wont have to do any of the dirty work and then he can do what he pleases. Why else would you tell your partner all these horrible things? It doesnt make any sense to me that he is telling his wife about falling in love with another girl...no sense.
Regardless, he has to answer for all this. Approach the matter gently and carefully. You dont want to cause a bigger rift between husband and wife.