ok, so by now i am sure all of you know i am totally obsessed with marriage 
so when i ever i am talking to anyone about this (usually my friends only) or people in this forum, they always say that marriage isn’t as great as you think it would be. it wouldn’t solve any problem, you will have so many new ones to deal with, enjoy your unmarried life blah blah blah. so my question to all the married people is marriage really not as great as unmarried people think it is??
i understand that if you are stuck with a supper crappy guy then it makes sense, but about normal marriage among normal couples? does people regret getting married? or wish to have their unmarried days back. or it is just a lame attempt to console unmarried people like me?
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I think they tell u that just because.....u dont want to be caught with the thinking that marriage will "fix" everything in ur life. yes new problems will come...new arguments and fights..but marriage is still worthwhile.
What ure asking..do normal people regret getting married..i think its a very tricky question.
Someone once said,
Marriage is like such a fruit which if someone does not get to taste, always regrets and someone who tastes it, may also regret it.
Now that depends on the taste and choice of the person.
Being not married and being married, both have advantages and disadvantages.
As for human being (normal and sensible) being married is much more beneficial than not being married at all, even if it is by choice.
Anyone giving you advice or all negative aspect of being married is plain and simple moron.
However, anyone giving you some advantages but more disadvantages of being single (by choice) is smart and a true friend. 
In essence, being married is hell lot of better than being single if there is choice.
Someone once said,
Marriage is like such a fruit which if someone does not get to taste, always regrets and someone who tastes it, may also regret it.
Now that depends on the taste and choice of the person.
Being not married and being married, both have advantages and disadvantages.
As for human being (normal and sensible) being married is much more beneficial than not being married at all, even if it is by choice.
Anyone giving you advice or all negative aspect of being married is plain and simple moron.
However, anyone giving you some advantages but more disadvantages of being single (by choice) is smart and a true friend. :)
In essence, being married is hell lot of better than being single if there is choice.
oh great. thanks for your honest reply :D
it’s good to know marriage is worthwhile. i was actually referring to ppl who gives me response like this "me: i wanna get married 
, my married friend: tumhara dimagh kharab hai yanzala, achi khasi life enjoy karo, na koi rook took (aa..i have parents) na koi masla (aa…exams!) shadi kay baad tou itnay maslay hotay hain, susraal, husband, kids etc. kiya zaroorat hai tumhain itnay maslon mai parnay ki.
i don’t know but i guess married people just like to complain.
I think marriage is good if your partner is good. I do miss being single, but that's only because I miss spending time with my own family. That's it. Other than that, marriage definitely is a positive thing for me. Enjoy being single, spend time with your family, friends. Marriage is a whole different thing, could be good or bad, totally depends on your partner.
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If you marry the right person, then marriage is great. If you marry the wrong person, life would suck. So choose wisely
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I think that outside of a marriage one can grow more as compare to being in a relationship . This is the time when we don't have any responsibilities and we can experiment with our life . But once you are married there is very small space to do something unusual . I think when someone tells us that now is the time to enjoy and think about other things , then he is not wrong .
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ok at times when there are no bickering n arguements ,marriage feels sweet n life feels worth living. with time u learn to tackle all responsibilities n new probs but if u get right person u might not wanna go back.
If you marry the right person, then marriage is great. If you marry the wrong person, life would suck. So choose wisely
how to choose??
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Marriage can be great, *if -: *
You get along with the inlaws
Understand your husband
dont nag him about his family
dont stress him out about pointless things like 'my sister inlaw didnt get me a present'
Main thing is to have a good understanding.
Also when inlaws say something to you or about you, the key is to jus be quiet and dont open your mouth, That way people can see clearly you are not botherd with what they say and they will back down and Inshallah you'll be problem free.
You and your husband have *to be a team. No doubt about it.
And last but not least. *Respect **each other. No matter what.
- If people tell you that cars do break down, will this stop you from buying a car?
- If people tell you that planes do fall down from air, will this stop you from flying?
- If people tell you that pedestrians get killed on the road by car accidents, will you stop you from walking?
If answer of any of the above question is YES, then yeah, dont get married.
PS: Everything in life comes in a bundle with some unnecessary baggage you have to carry. To me marriage is a bundle that is worth carrying.
- If people tell you that cars do break down, will this stop you from buying a car?
- If people tell you that planes do fall down from air, will this stop you from flying?
- If people tell you that pedestrians get killed on the road by car accidents, will you stop you from walking?
If answer of any of the above question is YES, then yeah, dont get married.
PS: Everything in life comes in a bundle with some unnecessary baggage you have to carry. To me marriage is a bundle that is worth carrying.
Interesting but all your examples are short term, longest being the flight to Pakistan... not if that flight had bunch of whiny kids, and an auntie that kept on falling on your shoulder cause she's sleepy, you still can tell your mind.. I'll be off that plane...in 16 hours....but a marriage,,, there is no light at the end of the tunnel... unless maybe you can brainwashed into believing "all izzz well"
how to choose??
First you need to know yourself and what you are looking for. A right person for someone else may not be the right person for you. I wanted things in my future husband such as good career, loyalty, and someone who would respect my freedom and independence aswell. Luckily, Iam engaged to someone who has all those things. Ofcourse he isn't perfect and has certain flaws but I am willing to look over those because he has all the other qualities I was looking for. You cannot find someone whos perfect but there are things that you cannot compromise on so make sure to look for those. Thats one of the reasons why I prefer marriage after the age of atleast 21 so that by then you kind of have an idea of what you're looking for. Don't settle for less because you will regret it later on. I see so many girls obsessing over quickly just getting married to anyone and then later on they realized that they were to quick to pick the person and regret it. Don't make that mistake.
We all have different priorities. Some prefer religious qualities, some prefer wealth, some prefer looks, and so on. Figure out what you want, then find someone. Hope this helped.
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Being married is by far the best thing to happen - "if we are looking at" - singleton vs. married life.
When you are single there are all kinds of freedom to experiment. However, even that gets boring after a while and you "crave" for true companionship. Otherwise, deep down you feel lonely.
If you are married, there is NEVER "loneliness". There is ALWAYS someone waiting for you. Looking out for you and wanting to share the rest of the "after work" time with you.
So married life is definitely better.
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As far as problems issue - well it depends on family to family. So always put your best foot forward and enjoy each day.
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oh god... this thread has me want to get married now!!! like right nowwwww! :(
Being married is by far the best thing to happen - "if we are looking at" - singleton vs. married life.
When you are single there are all kinds of freedom to experiment. However, even that gets boring after a while and you "crave" for true companionship. Otherwise, deep down you feel lonely.
If you are married, there is NEVER "loneliness". There is ALWAYS someone waiting for you. Looking out for you and wanting to share the rest of the "after work" time with you.
So married life is definitely better.
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As far as problems issue - well it depends on family to family. So always put your best foot forward and enjoy each day.
And there's always someone to fight n argue with(hoping they won't leave u for that) incase u get bored with all lovey dovey felings. :) marriage life is never monotonous..lots of drama more than life 1.
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Bonnie Hunt’s mother says to Jake Pavelka (The Bachelor) “Love is blind and marriage is an eye opener” 
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i do miss my life being single buts its also 100% true that i am very happy being married and love mu hubby though evry thing is there thats fighting ,argues,goodtimes bad timess but usually its for both of us and there is some to whome at the end of the day i have to go he has to come to me....:)people at young age do say that we are happy don wana get married but the time comes when that peple would also understands.
Allah bless u so much and inshAllah u will get a decent,sweet life partner as u are ur self.ammen....:) so stop listening to people trust me u will have ur own experience.....:)
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if believe what the aunties believe, that marriage is the solution to everything, then yeah it will suck. because it's not teh solution to anything. it brings with it a whole bunch of problems for which you are absolutely unprepared. but marriage is like any other relationship. you have to work at it and make it ideal. but unlike other relationships, it's a stronger, more honest bond.