Re: Forgiving your spouse
Agreed with this .
Forgiving can give them a chance to hurt you all over again. Sometimes , it depends on circumstances , how deeply involved they got with the other person . and who initiated it. Weekness can take over once , but not all the time. When one has commited the same act or even close to it more than once , then simply they are fully in intent to what they are doing and hence I wouldnt be able to move on and forgive or forget .
Yes human beings make mistakes, but since the nature of this subject is so sensitive; sometimes mistakes can’t be forgiven. Some people have the emotional intelligence and maturity to forgive their partner for cheating on them - but only if it was a one off thing/a mistake like you say. However, if your partner had a continuous affair with someone behind your back and fell in love with them too - then it is a different ball game.
That means continuously lying to you, faking things, hiding things from you, emotionally blackmailing you etc.
Why would you want to keep a partner that not only cheated on you with someone, but fell in love with them too? Self dignity should kick in now. If the person only counts his actions as a mistake and admits to wrongdoings, then I think one chance is fair enough. You can give one chance, second time it doesn’t count as a mistake anymore - it becomes deliberate.
I know someone in the UK whose husband cheated on her with her own bestfriend from school. Married her. This is despite the fact that my friend is beautiful af. And she has two gorgeous sons with him. So ladies, giving someone sons or being extremely beautiful and seductive won’t stop someone from cheating on you. If it is in their nature to have a wandering eye, they will. Now it is up to you, whether you accept this person’s nature or not.
There’s also cases where a person has a partner, but continues to have sex with other people because they have commitment issues, they have issues with monogamy, or are polyamorous. They can’t be satisfied with one person only, they get bored, regardless of whether they love the person or not.
So you see, cheating is a complex topic and depends on situation to situation. There is no hard and fast rule about what to do if someone cheats on you. It is a spur of the moment decision sometimes.