Why do Parents (which some of you are), sell off their daughters to rich (most of the time old) men, who their daughter does not like at all, in terms of character, looks, etc. But they like the guy alot 'cause he has money, wealth, and you think ur daughter will be happy 'cause the guy can support a family?
Why?
is that the only excuse parents have? “Our daughter will be happy”?
They can sacrifice their daughter’s happiness, for a few bux in the bank, and make up for it by saying " our daughter will be happy ". " we know best ".
And they DARE go against the RIGHT that Allah swt has given individuals in THE QURAN!
Paki/indian parents SICKEN me.
My cousin just got married, against her will. And shez not the first, millions, if not billions are getting married against their will. You wanna talk about women oppression, no need to look else where.
Sometimes, it goes for guys too!
Where did this mentality come from? What happened to good old islamic traditions (if you’re a muslim)?
Parents should not do that in case if they are selling their daughters to rich people.
Beside selling, if they are marrying their daughters to a person against her will, then it is not right socially, and religiously! The after effects are not productive in majority cases.
Those parents should respect emotions and liking of thier kids! ...
But again, rishtay to asmanoN par bantay hain, we dont do anythng on earth! period! what we can do is to make it successful after the marriage! Accept it and move on!!! ...
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Why do Parents (which some of you are), sell off their daughters to rich (most of the time old) men, who their daughter does not like at all, in terms of character, looks, etc. But they like the guy alot 'cause he has money, wealth, and you think ur daughter will be happy 'cause the guy can support a family?
it is a economic issue and sadly an issue of societal expectations, which have drilled into the minds of the parents of females that their daugthers are "commodoties".
what u can do is that educate women, mothers and fathers of daughters and teach the men u know, to respect women. if u see unjustice happening, try to prevent it any way u can - possibly bring the victim to a women's shelter.
there is a whole lot of work to be done to eradicate explotation of girls in the world.
The barreir between mother and daughter or father and daughter is the reason!
Trust and loyality is the key, when parents sned her daughter our for education or for job, then she must respect their decision and do what she is suppose to do! but she choses to do something else at the back of their parents, breaking their trust and insulting in society!
Is is this the way she is suppose to do?
Later she demands to marry him, how come? Daughters must respect the trust their parents have on them, and if they like some one and wanted to marry then their are ways to do it, bring his parents to her home, and get the proposal with a decensy!
I am sure if daughters do the right, half of the problems will be solved nicely! ...
who says daughters don't like guys for their money?.oh please most daughters want the same, a rich husband who can take care of their needs rather than a hunk with not much in the bank account or somebody they can connect to emotionally,but can't support them.dont blame it on the parents,thats what most women want.
Parents dont want their daughters to struggle... living hand to mouth so they think that by marrying their girls off to someone well educated perhaps even a rich individual will ensure them a happy life. If the guy is good perhaps they will have a great life...if he isnt then no riches in the world will truly make them happy.
I can understand to a certain extent why parents would want their daughters to marry someone well off....it guarantees that they will have some financial stabilty in life especially in situations where they girl herself isnt educated and is not making any money of her own. Nowadays this isnt the case.... many girls are able to provide for themselves and dont need to rely on a man for money.
However with that said....no parent should force their daughters to marry someone against their will.....choosing your own spouse is an Islamic right given to each individual and no one has the right to take that away. But also keep in mind the parents should guide their children in the decision making process.
Parents dont want their daughters to struggle... living hand to mouth so they think that by marrying their girls off to someone well educated perhaps even a rich individual will ensure them a happy life. If the guy is good perhaps they will have a great life...if he isnt then no riches in the world will truly make them happy.
I can understand to a certain extent why parents would want their daughters to marry someone well off....it guarantees that they will have some financial stabilty in life especially in situations where they girl herself isnt educated and is not making any money of her own. Nowadays this isnt the case.... many girls are able to provide for themselves and dont need to rely on a man for money.
However with that said....no parent should force their daughters to marry someone against their will.....choosing your own spouse is an Islamic right given to each individual and no one has the right to take that away. But also keep in mind the parents should guide their children in the decision making process.
You're right. no parent wants their daughters to struggle for money, and in my opinion looking at how well a guy could provide for her is NOT bad AS LONG AS other factors work out. Money should never be the deciding factor.
But it's absolutely horrible that the parents force her, if they don't take into accont how she feels and what she wants.
!! UGHH!
she means a family man!