Re: i hate this ******* process
cos i don't think somebody else can pick a mate for you, even if it is your parents, and cos you can't pick a mate based on an awkward-half hour of chai, samosas and small talk. marriage is a big deal and to be happy in a marriage should be a personal right, as much as the right to eat when you're hungry and sleep when you're tired, not a privilege or a stroke of luck. i think that at least in a "love" marriage, you go with your eyes open into this major commitment and life change and know what you're agreeing to- it doesn't mean the marriage will always succeed, but it does mean you're responsible for your own choices. generally speaking, i don't see that in arranged marriages where theres often a lot of pressure to please parents and families, and less focus on whether couple is actually compatible and like each other.
obviously i feel strongly about this :p
No, thats not the way of arranged marriage.....just for FYI...this token is not much more followed among educated parents anymore
.....if that was the way Your parents wanted you to pick someone within One half an hour chai samosa party thingy.. then no wonder why u r so against of it. :p