Re: i hate this ******* process
i hope you find a way out of it, fbi... it sucks. i, too, hated it, desperately - it felt so suffocating and just illogical to me. AH it worked out in the end... i mean, i basically moved out, met my husband, and eventually married him. my parents were resistant at first but then came to understand and accept my thought process, so thank God, it worked out well. i wouldn't recommend it unless you're at breaking point, which is where i was... can you not apply for a job elsewhere? or study some more in a university far away? desi parents seem to be more open to those suggestions than others sometimes...
Shouldn't this process be given a chance also. The ABCD or ARCD ( american raised desi) girls and boys are more enlightened but I am sure 714's parents will not push her into an 'andha ko-an' for the lack of a better word or translation.
After all 99.999999999999 percent of desies got married this way and are living happily ever after. I am one of those , been married for 16 years and still very happy. Yes I saw a few girls and then I and the family agreed to one and that was end of it.