I am average women sum ppl very rarely.. tell me that I m attractive but not my inlaws n hubby as I must mention We did love marriage 2 years before n my husband is no doubt more handsome and attractive then me And my mother in law always try to remind me that “TUM MERY BETY K JOR KI NAHI HO MUJHY SAAB KAHTY HAIN”
NO APPRECIATIOn… in my life from any one I M NOT hungry of it but atleast by my love my husband I went to the parlor took hair cut today but still i m not happy i m very upset what to do ?
I was very confident but now i m sick I often hide my face in front of my hubby friends and neighbors just because I thought I am not such beautriful as i must…
I know this is not healthy thinking but still I m unable to sort it out
Rida, if your hubby married you out of love, believe me that for him you are the most beautiful woman in this world. Dont worry about the rest of the world.
first of all, your husband married u because he loved u, so i dont think what your MIL say matter. She probably is one of those typically MIL who wants to put you down
Rida, if you put yourself down, then don’t be surprised if other people put you down as well. Recognize your strengths and qualities and be proud of them.
There will always be someone in the World who will put you down. It’s easy to believe them if you put yourself don’t too. So stop putting yourself down.
Rida, if it makes you feel better, when people point finger towards my lack of beauty, I start associating with even uglier people and that makes me appear beautiful in comparison. I advice you spend more time with your MIL from now on.
I'm sure your husband married you cuz you have a beautiful personality :) and you make him happy. Looks are not everything, who cares what everyone says about you guys as a couple... if you listen to them, you will destroy your happily married life.
IMHO your MIL is just being cruel (I don't know why).... don't let her say such things to you .... reply aaraam sai kay aap kay baitay ki pasand hoon mein, how can I not be of his jor.... ask her are you saying your son has bad taste? Hopefully you not being quiet and replying (politely) will stop her from making such comments in future. Otherwise just ignore her and just be happy.... or your marriage will suffer.
Rida socho har wakt "mai khoobsorat hoon". Please don't pay attention to what your MIL says, aaj kuch kal koyi aur masla hoga. This is the thing bout MILs. Aaap complex mai na parro, you had a hair cut lovely! Dress up, apply some make up and show hubby. Make your hubby happy, akhir you married him. :)
Rida whenever your MIL, FIL, Til, Chil, say something like "TUM MERY BETY K JOR KI NAHI HO MUJHY SAAB KAHTY HAIN" just reply back saying " Chalo shukar hey main dil ki to achi hoon.. agar dil ki bhi achi naa hoti to keya hota" that would definitely make her shush up since she would realise and appreciate the inner beauty you've got.. bottom line is you gotta kill them with kindness sometimes.
I am average women sum ppl very rarely.. tell me that I m attractive but not my inlaws n hubby as I must mention We did love marriage 2 years before n my husband is no doubt more handsome and attractive then me And my mother in law always try to remind me that "TUM MERY BETY K JOR KI NAHI HO MUJHY SAAB KAHTY HAIN"
NO APPRECIATIOn... in my life from any one I M NOT hungry of it but atleast by my love my husband I went to the parlor took hair cut today but still i m not happy i m very upset what to do ?
I was very confident but now i m sick I often hide my face in front of my hubby friends and neighbors just because I thought I am not such beautriful as i must...
I know this is not healthy thinking but still I m unable to sort it out
Develop some confidence, woman. And try to understand that the only reason your saasu maa makes these rude remarks is because she is JEALOUS that her son has another woman in his life to concentrate on besides his mommy. Your mother-in-law is insecure, jealous, bitter, and wants to bring you down. Misery loves company.
Act like it doesn't bother you and try to make your relationship with your husband SOOOOO STRONG that not even his mother can weaken your bond. And just pray to Allah for patience and justice. Trust me, eventually people get what the deserve.
And if you can't be patient, then try throwing some subtle meethi churis in your saasu maa's direction. Next time she starts with you, just say:
"Ammi, aap ka beta waaqaiy main bahut good-looking hai, MashaAllah. Woh aap ka beta bilkul bhi nahin lagta. Aap dono ki shaklain aapas main milti hi nahin. Chalo, khair, jaisi bhi shakal hai, shukar karna chahiye. Allah soorat ko nahin, seerat ko dekhta hai."
Hi Rida,
Like everyone else is saying that if you guys had love marriage then your husband does not feel that way about you. There are things that you can do that make you feel prettier inside like getting a facial, getting haircuts, manicures, spending time with friends, hubby...try different clothes on.. I mean I am just naming these because sometimes when I am down I got and do something different and it makes me feel good about myself and other people compliment you because they notice the change.
Don't let your MIL ruin your confidence for you.. It's your husband that's important.
Hun i think you need to go straight to your husband, and talk!! Communicate!! Let him know how you feel, since he can't read your mind he has no clue how you feel deep inside.
Go shopping for yourself!!! And please go alone, so you buy what your heart sets on and what you feel most comfortable with. You don't need anyone's opinions.
And FYI, even the very pretty girls seldom hear compliments from their husbands.... so don't fret if your husband doesn't pay you compliments, its totally normal and shouldn't get your confidence down.... its like "ghar ki murghi daal baraabar" :p
