I hate desi shaddi type events

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Akif

so who is stopping you from posting about the good aspects of our culture? I am posting my views on certain practices and attitudes that exist and I dont like them. There are other aspects of our culture which are very desireable and very impressive, which we have written about earlier as well.

You can be a cheerleader for the good aspects of the culture, and if you want you can be the cheerleader for the undesireable aspects as well. whats next, our society’s issues with domestic violence are a taboo subject because we need to just talk about the good stuff?

I mean go ahead and start a thread about the fun and caring and sharing that takes place at family gatherings and at weddings etc. Who here is disagreeing with that. I have focused on a few particular aspects of it and why some attitudes and norms are distressing and not that “everything” with such events or ‘everything’ with our culture is bad.

and yeah you have a bone of contention…but the question remains “where’s the beef”

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Again missing the point fraudia.

cheerleading is not what im looking to do. And i know i can start threads on aspects of our culture that please me…but generalization? Thats where i draw the line.

here are a couple of formulas for u

your aunty is obnoxious =/= all desi auntys are obnoxious
you hated a certain desi function =/= all desi functions are hatable

If i find 10 politicians in Pakistan who are the nicest of the lot, and if i were to say that all desi politicians are nice and corruption-free, you’d laugh at me and think i was crazy. Similarly, u coming up with 10 corrupt politicians doesnt make pakistani politics a lost cause either.

Generalization based on a couple of personal experiences, that too for a whole society, is wrong and disproportionate.

I am posting my views on certain practices and attitudes that exist and I dont like them.

they exist in your relatives, your family…not the entire desistan

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beat on ur folks all u want…but they are not representing the entire desi community.

[This message has been edited by Akif (edited July 26, 2001).]

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Originally posted by Akif:
Again missing the point fraudia.

au contraire.. u have missed the points and let me illustrate them again

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…but generalization? Thats where i draw the line.

I talked about one event with one set of people… I unfortunately dont gate crash private events so I cant relate my experiences to others

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Why do you insist on taking my frustration at one set of events and extrapolate it to the whole society?

**here are a couple of formulas for u

your aunty is obnoxious =/= all desi auntys are obnoxious **

Find the sentence where I said that. Its you who thinks that I said it. I can not control your inferences.

**you hated a certain desi function =/= all desi functions are hatable **

again find a sentence where I said that. Having a nice imagination is nice but like hold the horses their buddy.

Your inferences are completely off base and I wonder why you are taking it so personally

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You dont happen to be one of those people i mentioned are ya?

Generalization based on a couple of personal experiences, that too for a whole society, is wrong and disproportionate.

Heck chanda I was talking about one experience and my frustration with it. Obviosiuly you completely missed the boat when i noted in later posts that this has not happened at all times.

as far as disproportionate goes. I am sorry indeed all desi events start right on time

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**they exist in your relatives, your family…not the entire desistan

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speaking of missing the point obviously you did not catch the phrase noted in english that the people complaining were not relatives but assorted community folks who were around there. PLease pay more attention to posts before you get your undies in a knot.

**beat on ur folks all u want…but they are not representing the entire desi community. **

Again it was my expereince (not the entore desi nation’s experience) at one event (not the entire desi nations’ events)..and that is why I am beating on the type of people that were found there. Now unless you were one of those people, you should try to take things less personally..too much stress may cause ulcers.

oh and by the way, lets just have an improptu survey of how many people have run into such individuals at events or how many people have gone to desi events that have started on time and without glitches. That may provide you peace of mind

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Fraud:

I understand that overzealous aunties can make life difficult, and in this respect it may be easier to deal with people like my mother in law. I understand your dilemma..next time just check into a hotel, and then contact the aunties. If this doesn't work, give them my mother in law's phone number. She may have a good explanation about why she doesn't encourage overnight guests at her house.

Muzna:
I used to log on to gupshup during my lunch hour at work, but recently, we went through an an extensive audit, and all those caught surfing the net at the company's expense have been banned from using the internet, and I am one of them. Everyone at work is familiar with the word Gupshup now, thanks to me. And at home, I hardly get the time. But I will try to write whenever I get a chance. I may e-mail you one of these days.
Take care.